Tuesday, August 23, 2016

Living for Christ in college!

                      Living for Christ in college

Throughout the years, many sisters in college have reached out to me sharing the struggles of trying to live for Christ while in college. College is a place where your faith will be tested. You're no longer under your parent's supervision. You no longer are told to go to church. Your'e free to make your own decisions. Though it may be hard to live for Christ in college, it's not impossible. Christ needs young women who will be set apart and stand on His word, show His love, be unashamed of His gospel and a be a light on college campuses across the world. This blog is to encourage my sisters that you can live for Christ in college!

1. Don't believe lies

For many believers, college can be a hard time. The enemy and your peers will make you feel like your'e missing out. Everyone else is out partying, getting drunk, high, dating and sleeping around while your'e trying to live for Christ. You may find yourself feeling lonely, isolated, and ostracized. People may even think you're weird or lame because you don't partake in the same activities as everyone else. You may even face persecution for your faith. Remember, you are not of this world. One of my favorite quotes, "I rather be an outcast now than get cast out later!" The narrow way isn't popular, but it's worth it. Nothing can compare to the joy and peace that comes from a life that is obedient and fully surrender to Christ. Take it from someone who rebelled against God and partied their life away in college. (Read my  My testimony) Don't believe the lies sis. Life in the world looks glamorous, but it's all a visage. The partying, drugs, sex, and relationships cannot fill that void that you have. We desperately need Christ!

2. Surround yourself with Godly friends

1 Corinthians 15:33 Do not be deceived,"Bad company corrupts good morals."
Women of God should be loving, friendly, welcoming and cordial to everyone. However, we must be very selective of our close friends. It's so imperative that we surround ourselves with sisters who love and fear the Lord. We can't afford to have friends who are encouraging us to sin against God and do things that are contrary to His word. Imagine you trying to live for Christ but you have friends who are full of drama and constantly pressuring you to hook up with guys and attend parties. We need Godly friends who we can confess our sins to, be accountable to, sharpen us, correct us when we're wrong, pray with us when we're struggling, tell us the truth in love and who will ultimately push us closer to Christ!

3.Don't compromise

2 Timothy 2:22 Flee the evil desires of youth and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, along with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart.

Sis, don't compromise your Godly standards to fit in. Don't dim your light to get the approval of people. Don't compromise and date a guy who doesn't love Christ. I know the struggle is real, it seems like everyone has a bae but you..but sis, you can't change him! This guy will lead you away from Christ and you'll end up heartbroken. Flee sin and cling to Christ. Protect your purity. Guard your heart. Don't flirt with sin or think you can handle it. We can only do this by the power of the Holy Spirit, not human effort. So many times we think we are stronger that what we are. Trust me we are not. We can't handle it. No matter how long you've been saved. No matter how long you've been celibate. No matter how many scriptures you know. You can't handle it! The flesh is weak. Don't put yourself in compromising situations where you can fall in sin.  Proverbs 6:27 Can a man take fire in his bosom And his clothes not be burned?

We must be wise ladies. I understand that we're not perfect but remember that we represent Christ. Some things may not necessarily be a sin, but is it wise? Don't lose your witness and don't allow your good to be evil spoken of. The streets are watching. Your peers won't take you serious if one minute your'e trying to witness to them about Christ, then the next minute your'e doing the same things that they're doing. Be wise!

Romans 14:16 So do not let what you regard as good be spoken of as evil.
1 Corinthians 10;23 All things are lawful,” but not all things are helpful. “All things are lawful,” but not all things build up.

4. Stay grounded in the word

Psalm 119:11 I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you.

Being in our word as believers isn't an option. We cannot be self-sufficient and think we can coexist apart from Christ. We must cling to Him tightly and feast upon His word. We must set aside a time to study the word and pray. The word strengthens us, comforts us, transforms us, convicts us and gives us the power to overcome sin. Let's be honest, no one is going to "feel" like reading their word all the time. We have to be real and ask God to give us the desire. We must deny our flesh and not allow for our feelings to control us.

5. Use your time wisely

Sis, use your time wisely because we can never get time back. Don't look back on your college years and realize that you wasted time. Be fruitful and leverage your time. Your college campus is a mission field. There are so many people from all walks of life who don't know Christ. Pray for opportunities to share the gospel and make disciples. Join a campus ministry or even start one! (If you're interested in starting a High heels and High standards campus ministry email me!:-) Serve your community, volunteer, mentor, join clubs, or do an internship. Most importantly, find a solid bible teaching church where you can be edified and grow. It is also great to have an older sister at church who can mentor you and pour into you!

6. Have fun!

Ecclesiastes 8:15 So I commend the enjoyment of life, because there is nothing better for a person under the sun than to eat and drink and be glad. Then joy will accompany them in their toil all the days of the life God has given them under the sun.

Sis make the most of your time in college!  Just because your'e a Christian doesn't mean you have to be stiff and boring. Connect with other young Christians in your area. Evangelize. Make disciples. Travel. Live. Think outside the box. Understand that in your walk with Christ there will be victories and there will be failings. Sometimes you'll be on the mountain tops and other times you'll be in the valley. No matter what season you find yourself in, keep your eyes on Christ because He is faithful. If you fall or make unwise decisions learn from them. Don't sink in condemnation and run back to the world. Repent and run back to the arms of your loving Father! 

I hope that this blog can encourage my sisters who are in high school or college. Please share with other ladies that you know. Though it may be hard, it's not impossible to live for Christ in college. Sis, if you have gotten out of the race it's time to get back in. Remember your purpose while at college. Remember you are there to glorify God, to be a light and get an education. Don't lose focus. Love you sis stay encouraged!

Thursday, February 18, 2016

What is a Christian?

What is a Christian?

There's an attack on what it means biblically to be a Christian. All over our country we have people professing to be Christian but their life, what they teach, and what they stand for grossly contradicts scripture. A false Christianity is so prevalent in our country because it costs nothing and allows people to live how they want and "go to Heaven!" The standard has been lowered and tainted of what a Christian is. Just because someone has a title, is apart of a denomination, a faithful church goer, or talks about Jesus doesn't make them a Christian. It's so imperative that we're letting the bible define what a Christian is..not opinions, feelings, or our culture. I'm so passionate about this topic because I was in church all of my life thinking I was a Christian but was lost as ever. My heart is to see people truly saved and on fire for God because at the end of our lives this is the ONLY thing that will matter!!

1. A Christian has been born again

John 3:3 Jesus answered him, “Truly, truly, I say to you, unless one is born again he cannot see the kingdom of God.”
John :12-13 But as many as received Him, to them He gave the right to become children of God, even to those who believe in His name, who were born, not of blood nor of the will of the flesh nor of the will of man, but of God.

Going to church, paying tithes, getting baptized, repeating a prayer doesn't make us a Christian. Jesus said that we MUST be born again. We were born in sin and separated from God. In order to be reconciled to God we must be born again. To be born again is a spiritual rebirth from Heaven. In our natural state before Christ, we are dead spiritually and hostile to the things of God.( Ephesians 2:1, Colossians 2:13) When a person repents of their sins and place their trust in Christ, God regenerates them and makes them alive spiritually. Salvation is all a work of God, not human effort.  (John 3:8 The wind blows where it wishes, and you hear its sound, but you do not know where it comes from or where it goes. So it is with everyone who is born of the Spirit.) Salvation is a supernatural work of God where God gives a person His nature, new desires, affections, loves, and passions. This  covenant was prophesied in the old testaments.{ Ezekiel 36:26–27)
Without the evidence of being born again, no person should have any assurance that they are saved or in right standing with God!

2. A Christian believe God's word

2 Timothy 3:16 All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness.

Christianity isn't a buffet where we  pick and choose what we want to believe. God defines the terms and conditions as stated in His word, not us! A Christian believes God's word and seeks to conform their life to it. I'm flabbergasted to hear self-proclaimed leaders in the church denounce orthodox beliefs and now take on liberal views. There's no way that anyone can be a child of God, yet support practices and lifestyles that God's word deem as sin. God's word defines what's right and wrong, not our culture. We are to change our lives to accommodate God's word, not change God's word to accommodate our lives!

3. A Christian's life will be radically transformed by the power of God

2 Corinthians 5:17 Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.

It is the Holy Spirit at work in a believer that changes them and conforms them to the image of Christ. Through the power of the Holy Spirit, we are able to obey God and live holy. The more we renew our mind in God's word, we are transformed. God's whole purpose of salvation is to change us to look like Christ and to get the glory out of our life. Through trials and circumstances God will prune and change us. Sanctification is a life-long process but the moment a person is born again, they are made alive spiritually and given the very nature of God. To say that a person can be a Christian and never grow, change, and live in a continual state of rebellion against God contradicts everything Christ stood for. Every person who encountered Christ in the bible, their life was radically transformed!

4. A Christian obeys God

John 15:14 You are my friends if you do what I command you.
1 John 2:4 Whoever says “I know him” but does not keep his commandments is a liar, and the truth is not in him.

Christianity isn't following a bunch of rules or trying to be a good person. When a person has been born of God they are given new desires. They no longer will be comfortable or find pleasure in sin like they did when they were lost. A Christian now loves God,seeks to please Him, and it's not burdensome to obey Him(1 john 5:3) Does this mean that a Christian will be perfect. Absolutely not! (1 John 1:8 If we say we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.) A Christian will not be perfect..but their direction will be different. Their heart and affections will be set on living for God and no longer pursuing a life of sin. If a Christian fails or sin, they will not twist scriptures to justify it, boast in it, or make excuses to continue in sin..they will be broken, grieved and led to repentance.

5.A Christian will be hated by the world

John 15:18-19 If the world hates you, know that it has hated me before it hated you. If you were of the world, the world would love you as its own; but because you are not of the world, but I chose you out of the world, therefore the world hates you.

If you're going to be a faithful Christian in a fallen world, you must accept that the world will hate you and you must love those who do. We can't expect the same world that hated and killed our Savior to love and accept us. The world will call you judgmental, harsh, self-righteous, and a bigot for standing on God's word. The world hates Christians because darkness hates the light(John 3:19-21), they hate God's truth(Galatians 4:16), because we expose sin(john 7:7), because satan has blinded the world(2 Corinthians 4:4), and they hate the gospel(1 Corinthians 1:18) The kingdom of God and the world are opposed to each other. We can't try to please both God and the world, you will love one and hate the other. We're called to love the world and engage them with the gospel, but God has called us to separate from the world. (2 Corinthians 6:17) To be a friend of the world is to be an enemy of God. (James 4:4)

6. A Christian will bear the fruit of Christ

Matthew 7:17-20 So, every healthy tree bears good fruit, but the diseased tree bears bad fruit. A healthy tree cannot bear bad fruit, nor can a diseased tree bear good fruit.  Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. Thus you will recognize them by their fruits.

Salvation is a free gift given. We are saved by grace through faith..but our fruit show if our faith is genuine. You will know a person by what flows our of their life. If a person belongs to God, it will reflect in their life.

7. A Christian will perseveres to the end

Matthew 24:13 But the one who endures to the end will be saved.

Salvation isn't verified by a past act, but our present fruitfulness. I meet many people who say they "use to be a Christian" or use to be on fire for a season but are now back in the world. I would encourage that person to examine themselves to see if they where truly born again (2 Corinthians 13:5). A person who is running a race doesn't finish until he completes the race. The Christian life is a race and those who endure to the end will be saved. Throughout the Christian life, there will be trials, hardships, and suffering but we overcome by our faith in Christ.  Peter 1:8-9 Though you have not seen him, you love him. Though you do not now see him, you believe in him and rejoice with joy that is inexpressible and filled with glory, receiving the end of your faith, even the salvation of your souls.

If you have read this blog and you're unsure or have doubts if you have been born again, please email me. I would love to talk to you and point you to Christ. Don't allow pride or fear keep you from the most important thing in life! 

Saturday, December 5, 2015

Christianity and "Black Lives Matter Movement!"

                                          "Christianity & Black Lives Matter Movement"

Over the last couple of years, we all have watched the race war heat up. From the Trayvon Martin case to Mike Brown. I haven't felt led by God to say anything until now. I don't  jump on bandwagons because it's popular. It's a time to speak and a time to remain silent. As usual, I don't seek to give a "popular" view but a biblical view. God hears our prayers, he sees our cries, and he sees the injustice. No matter what race looks more affluent on this side of earth, every person will stand before a holy and just God and give an account for their life. God doesn't show partiality or favoritism. No race is superior, no race is more important. Regardless of what it looks like. We are all loved by God and created in His image. (Genesis 1:2)

Christian, the media is not your friend! Let me repeat..THE MEDIA IS NOT YOUR FRIEND. The media purposely talk about certain things to stir up your emotions to fuel this race war to create division and hatred. We're in this world but not of this world.  We overcome evil with good. It's not a SKIN problem, it's a SIN problem. Racism and prejudice all boils down to sin. The originator of racism is the enemy, the father of lies. He's sitting back smiling and laughing. He's happy to see many Christians no longer focused on spreading the gospel but focused on racism. He's happy to see Christians siding with false teachers like Farrakhan. He's happy to see the church segregated. He's happy to see us fighting each other, when he's the master puppet. We do not wrestle against flesh and blood..this is a spiritual war! (For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places. Ephesians 6:12)

1. Sympathize. We cannot sit here and pretend as if racism doesn't exist. I side-eye many of the posts that I read from some of my Facebook friends that pretend as if some black people are over-reacting. It's easy to be nonchalant and lack compassion, when you've never faced racism or were treated unfairly because of your skin color. Unfortunately, we live in a fallen world that's plagued by sin. Racism is one of the many sins that plagues our nation. People are hurt, angry, confused, and frustrated. Parents are afraid that their kids are next..kids are afraid that they are next. There are many black Christian bros who have even shared their frustration of being racially profiled(even in church settings). It's insensitive as a believer to brush them to the side. We must be compassionate and sympathize with all. (Romans 12:15 Rejoice with those who rejoice; weep with those who weep.) My greatest desire is that racist people will come to repentance and be saved. They need the gospel. They need Christ. We must fervently pray for their souls.

2.Don't jump on the bandwagon because it's popular. Use wisdom and be cautious of who you align yourself with. We must test everything in light of scripture. We must ask: Does this align with scripture? Is God being glorified? Does this promote peace, righteousness, and love? Is this pushing me closer to Christ? Does this represent the character of Christ? I don't want to put everyone in the same category because everyone in the Black Lives Movement isn't the same. I've met some kind people apart of the BLM who aren't promoting evil, just simply passionate about what they believe. On the contrary, I've seen people who are promoting godless behavior and are no different than the KKK. A rotten apple can spoil the whole bunch. Why yoke ourselves with that?(2 Corinthians 6:14) We can still speak out against injustice and stand for equality without supporting a movement that promotes the opposite of what Christ stands for. I'm in no way insinuating that we can't love our skin color and race..but it's idolatry and pride to esteem our race. Many Christians are putting their race over their Christ and God is not pleased. As Christians we should boast in who we are in Christ..not our skin color. (2 Corinthians 10:17 Let the one who boasts, boast in the Lord.)

3.Take accountability for our actions. I believe we should stand for justice and equality. However, we should make the same public outcry for black on black crime as we do for white on black crimes. Abortion is the #1 killer of blacks, and many are silent about that. On average, 1,876 black babies are aborted every day in the United States. Despite making up 13% of the population, blacks account for more than 50% of crime. It's hypocrisy to speak out against what the "white man" is doing but ignore the crime, violence and all the things that are plaguing the black community. We have to stop glorifying and supporting these rappers, trappers, and strippers who are the degradation of the black community. We have to teach our youth to have respect for those in authority. We need more men and women who will not go on social media and rant..but will actually step up and do something. We need men and women who will speak the truth in love to this generation, who will mentor our youth, who will promote values and morals that will restore the black community. We will never see change as long as we're pointing the fingers and blaming everyone else instead of looking in the mirror. (Matthew 7:5 You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye.)

Stand for justice, speak out against equality, be angry and sin not..but do not allow the enemy to make you his puppet. Don't allow hatred, bitterness, resentment, and un-forgiveness to creep into your heart. Don't engage in fruitless debates and arguments that bring no glory to Christ. We are in the last days, we must stay vigilant. This is not a war against blacks vs whites, this war is against the enemy vs God. The enemy will use anything to cause our heart to grow cold. I've seen many people who once professed Christ get deep into the black lives Matter Movement..and now are apart of black Hebrew Israelite's, Black Conscious, and other false cults. We must give our hurt and pain to the Lord and find healing through Christ. We must confess and repent to God if we've been harboring hate and un-forgiveness towards another race. As believers we have to band together. We must unify. Our brothers and sisters are not those who are our race..our brothers and sisters are those who do the will of God. (Matthew 12:50 For whoever does the will of my Father in heaven is my brother and sister and mother.) 

What we see today is a direct result of the fall and the judgment of God. I can't promise that things will get better. I can't promise that racism will stop. What I can promise is for those who have put their trust and hope in Christ on this side..He will return for His people, restore all things and execute perfect justice! There will be no more suffering, pain, murders, injustice, racism, wars, or evil. Come quickly Lord Jesus!

Saturday, October 3, 2015

Christianity,Empire & Scandal

                     Christianity, Empire & Scandal

This week, a co-worker asked me did I see the new episode of Empire. Before I could answer, someone said, "She's not into stuff like that!" I want to make it clear that I'm not better than anyone because I don't watch these shows. When God first saved me, I battled giving up my favorite reality shows: Single Ladies, Real Housewives of Atlanta, and Bad Girls Club. I tried to make excuses and convince myself that it was just a show and no big deal. The Holy Spirit would convict me every time, and I would feel no peace afterwards. The Holy Spirit was grieved with me feeding my flesh and filling my mind with the filth of this world.  Finally I said enough Lord, I give it to you.  (Ephesians 4:30 And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption.)

In the last year, I've heard much talk of popular shows like Empire and Scandal. For those who are not familiar with Empire or Scandal, these shows are very popular. People even get together to have Empire and Scandal watching parties. These shows glorify and promote fornication, homosexuality, abortion, adultery, greed, lust of the flesh, the pride of life..and everything that Jesus warns us to stay away from. The fastest way to promote sin and make it acceptable is through entertainment. I'm sure shows like Empire and Scandal may have a good story line, but I find it hypocritical as a believer to preach against sin but then watch shows that glorify it. These shows are designed to desensitize us to sin and make it normal. In the 70s-80s we had shows like The Cosby Show, Family Matters, Brady Bunch that promoted family, marriage, morals and values..now we have shows that promote sin and our culture reflects it!

 PAUSE.. Some of you may be thinking, "Umm Brittany I like your other posts but I'm not giving up my shows. You're being legalistic and holier than thou!" It's not about being a legalist, but we can't use our freedom in Christ as an excuse to gratify our flesh. We have to wonder why our hearts are far from God, why we have no desire to pray & share the gospel, and no passion for Christ because we are being entertained by the very things He hates and died for.  No matter how long we've been saved, we can't "handle" certain things. We should pursue holiness and godliness at all costs. 

This isn't just about Empire & Scandal. It's about what we watch, listen to, and entertain in general. These shows promote the very sins that put our loving savior on the cross.  Many times we don't understand and think God doesn't wants us to have fun or watch anything. No, God loves us and wants us to stay away from evil and anything that will take our heart away from Him. He knows how detrimental these things are to our spiritual life. Believers, we have to guard our heart and be wise. We should seek to honor God in what we listen to and watch. In my own walk, I notice when I listen to or watch certain things..afterwards I have no desire to read my word or pray. This stuff feeds our flesh, unknowingly. We shouldn't ask is this a sin, or that a sin. We should ask is this pushing us closer to God and would God be pleased with it. ( 1 Corinthians 10:23 All things are lawful, but not all things are profitable. All things are lawful, but not all things edify.)

This post wasn't to condemn any believers for watching these shows, but to bring awareness and expose the cunning tactics of the enemy. (Ephesians 5:11 Take no part in the unfruitful works of darkness, but instead expose them.) As we grow in God, we begin to love what He loves and hate what He hates..including our own sin. Some may think I'm being "too deep" but for those who have been convicted by watching these shows this is for you!:-)

Proverbs 4:23 Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.
         Psalms 101:3 I will set nothing wicked before my eyes;
I hate the work of those who fall away;it shall not cling to me.

Saturday, January 31, 2015

Worldly Women Vs Godly Women

Worldly Women Vs Godly Women

I made a blog some months ago about Godly vs Worldly men! (http://brittmjay.blogspot.com/2014/02/godly-vs-worldly-men.html) All of the ladies were like, "Yes,you better tell it Brittany. A man needs to be this and that!"  Well, ladies this blog is for us! This blog is not to bash women in the world and esteem Godly women. It's ONLY because of Christ that a Godly woman is able to be this way nothing of her own. Godly women have not arrived and are not perfect but there should be a CLEAR distinction of who we are and who we belong to. I know that it's not an overnight process. However, the more we grow in Christ the more we look like Him and less like the world. We should be actively changing, growing into the women God called us to be and not content in how we were in the world.

 I want to make this very clear that just because a woman is a Minister, Pastor's daughter, Pastor's wife, serve in church, apart of a Christian organization, is moral, or posts about God doesn't make us a woman of God! There are many women in the church with the title as a 'Godly woman', but look no different from women in the world besides church attendance and morality. A true woman of God has been born again and seeks to please God in everything, repentant, and lives on the narrow path!

Spiritual life

A woman in the world can be a faithful church goer, serve in church, moral, apart of a Christian organization, sweet and talk about God but she is not deeply rooted in Christ and has no passion for God or lost souls. She may be celibate, serve in church, or quote scriptures but there is no true love for God or His word.  She may pray to God when she needs something or out of obligation but she doesn't have a deep prayer life. You will see many worldly women talking about God one minute, then turning up, having sex and cursing the next. She is very double-minded. She gets bored talking about God and the gospel, she rather talk about other things. She is not broken over her sin, as long as she looks moral before others she is okay. She seeks to please herself and look good before others above everything else. In church and on social media she may be one way, but when you get her alone she's a completely different person. She may compromise on anything if she likes you enough and if you tell her what she wants to hear.

Christ is a Godly's woman life. Everything that she does stems from her relationship with Christ. She isn't overly-religious or churchy, her love for God is natural flowing and not forced. God's word is the standard by which she lives and  base everything on.  The Godly woman communes with God and has an intimate relationship with the Lord. She depends on Him and feasts upon His word. She not only reads the word, she seeks to keep it.  She is  passionate about Christ and her heart's desire is to share the gospel and make disciples. She is conscious and sensitive of all of all the areas in her life that are unlike God and prays and depend on God to help her in the areas that she falls short in. She seeks to please God above everything else. She is deeply rooted in the word of God (if she's a new believer she's growing to know who God is). She seeks to be the same in church, on social media, in public and in private.


Worldly women often times pride themselves off their looks and achievements. They boast about their accolades, followers, title, career, and how much money they make. It's all about them. She will put her career and pleasures before her husband and family. She only cares about her kid's dressing nice, their extra-curricular activities and their education.. she isn't concerned with their spiritual well-being. She looks up to and idolize celebrities who are "successful" in the world. She strives to be the next house wife,  Beyonce, Oprah,  and tries to "keep up with the Kardashians" because she is so mesmerized with their glamorous & lavish life, expensive bags, and money.

A Godly woman may have alot to boast in but she boasts in Christ alone. She knows that apart from Him she's nothing. She know that her achievements, degrees, career, minus Christ is vain and holds no eternal value. A godly woman doesn't strive to be "successful" by the world's standards, she strives to be successful according to God's standards which is by obedience and conformity to His will. God and her family comes before anything. She's not trying to "keep up with the Jones" she does what is best for her household because her main goal is to raise her kids in the fear and ammunition of the Lord. She cares about her children's education but more than anything she cares about them living for God and doing what God called them to do. She strives to be like older Christian women and be a Proverbs 31 woman. She is not trying to be like celebrities because she knows the things that they stand for, the way that they live, and what they promote contradicts God's word.


Worldly women are more than likely attracted to carnal aspects of a man. How they look, dress, how much money they make, their degrees, accolades, social status, will they make cute kids, how fly his car is, how good he is in bed, how he makes her feel and temporal things that have no eternal value.

I won't say that a Godly woman won't be attracted to the exterior. Before we know anything about a man, we only see how they look. Saved or not, we all want to be attracted to our husband! A Godly woman will check out how he looks but more than anything she will be attracted to who he is spiritually. She is concerned about can he provide for her, his prayer life, can he lead her, protect her purity, does he have a vision, hear clearly from the Lord,  can he teach her the word, be a good example for her (future) children, and how he interacts with other women. She is attracted to his leadership, self control, his submission to Christ no matter what the cost, his devotion to fervent prayer, and his heart to reach people with the gospel of Christ.

Courting and Dating

A worldly woman will give out her number, flirt, or date any guy who she finds attractive, has something to offer her, or just to have a good ol' time. She has no problem with having sex before marriage, spending the night with you, taking vacations with you, or moving in with you before you're her husband. In her eyes, nothing is wrong with it. There are some worldly women who do see a problem with having sex before marriage, but it's not because they truly fear God and want to please Him. It centers around them and their selfish desires.

A woman of God knows that her time is precious. She doesn't give out her number or date any guy that comes along. She knows who she is in Christ and her standards are based on God's word, not based upon conditions and her feelings.. She's not trying to have any man, she's waiting for her husband. You have to go through her father to get to her! Even though she may be tempted at times and weak, she will seek to honor God with her body. I won't say that a Godly woman can't fall into sexual sin and make mistakes in their area(I know some who have but they repented and are walking in purity again)  but she will be convicted unto repentance, uncomfortable and grieved about sinning against God. She will not use scriptures to justify why she can sleep with her boyfriend.


Worldly women screech at the word submission. Many have the mindset that,"I'm independent. I got my own, I'm not submitting to no man this ain't the 1950's!"  She doesn't practice prudence or discretion, she pops off at the mouth.(Proverbs 11:22 Like a gold ring in a pig's snout is a beautiful woman without discretion). She is very quarrelsome and when she's having problems with her husband, she will nag him to death, complain, and run and tell all of her friends what's going in. (Proverbs 25:24) She doesn't have a relationship with Christ, so she expects her husband to fulfill her every need and desire. She puts unrealistic expectations on him that only Christ can fill. She has this view of marriage to fill her void and make her happy.

Godly women whether single or married knows and embraces her God given role. She embraces her role of being a help meet and submitting to her husband. (Colossians 3:18) She knows God's design and portrait of a Godly marriage. She understands that her husband can't fulfill her every need, want, and desire only Christ can. When things are going wrong, although she is agitated she is careful with her words and speaks with wisdom. (Proverbs 31:26) She is very discreet, when they're having problems and she doesn't nag him or run to her friends, she goes to the Lord and pray because she know prayer changes things!  She knows that marriage is the picture between Christ and his church, she doesn't go to marriage looking to fill a void she knows that it will make her holy.


You will see the acts of the flesh in a worldly's woman life. (Galatians 5:19-21 The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery;  idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions, and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.) A worldly woman's  love is conditional, based on how others treat her. She doesn't forgive easily, she constantly bring up everything and remind you of what you've done in the past. She harbors hurt,anger, and bitterness. She's passionate about worldly success, the temporal things of the world. She can be controlling, unsubmissive to God, leadership, and authority.

You will see the fruits of the spirit manifested a woman of God's life.(Galatians 5:22-23 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.) Her love for others is unconditional, no matter how they treat her because she knows the author of love, God. She builds up people and tears down the lies of the enemy. She is devoted to purity and chastity, able to forgive and freely extend mercy and grace, passionate about Christ, her words are sincere, she's selfless, sensitivity to God’s Word and to His Spirit, sensitive to the sin in her life, able to speak the truth in love, submissive  to Christ, leadership, and authority.


You want to know who a woman is?? Look at her friends, they are a reflection of her!( Amos 3:3 Can two walk together, except they agree) A worldly woman may have friends who they've been down for years. They may be loyal to each other and have a great friendship but they are not pushing each other closer to God. I personally called alot of my friendships in the world "sinships" we had nothing in common but sin. We never talked about anything deep, never went through anything..we just partied, gossiped, and sinned together!

A godly woman may not have a lot of friends, but the friends that she do have will be solid believers who keep her accountable and push her closer to Christ. They have a deep intimate bond that is founded upon Christ and His word. They will laugh, cry, pray, sharpen one another(Proverbs 27:17) and confess their sins to one another (James 5:16.) Her friends will never give her advice that contradicts God's word.

I pray after reading this, that many of us men and women have a new perspective of what a woman of God is. I want to state again, that it's ONLY because of the Holy spirit convicting us, working in us, changing us, and teaching us that equips us to be women of God. This blog challenged me also, because I am striving to be the woman that God created me to. After reading this blog and you may realize..
  • You thought you were this Godly woman the whole time but you realize that you may be worldly: Please email me so that I can share with you God's plan of salvation (highheelsstandards@gmail.com)
  • You are saved but you still have a lot of worldliness in you: Ask God to change YOU to become a godly woman who can deeply and richly bless a godly man one day.  Let go of worldly friends, practices, shows or whatever else is taking your heart away from God.
  • You are a Godly man and realize that you've been going for worldly woman even though they're in church. It's easy to get caught up in the exterior, because she's pretty, sweet, and kind. Truly seek the Lord , fast, and pray and don't compromise!
  • If you are a Godly woman and seek to be the woman God designed you to be! Continue digging deep in the word, prayer,and staying sensitive to the Holy Spirit. Allow His spirit to sanctify you and change you from the inside out!

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Sunday, December 21, 2014

Come out of the closet: What do we have to lose?

Come out of the closet: What do we have to lose?

Years ago, people were ashamed of certain lifestyles. Now, sin is celebrated and people are bold and proud about their rebellion against God. Everyone is out of the closet, except for Christians. We have become so politically correct, that we're biblically incorrect. We walk around on egg shells afraid to say God's word because we don't want to be offensive. This is a charge for all Christians to come out of the closet, be bold, unashamed and go hard for Christ.  What do we have to lose for going all out for Christ, for giving our all, for being bold, unashamed and proclaiming the glorious gospel of Jesus Christ?

Romans 1:16 For I am not ashamed of the gospel of Christ: for it is the power of God unto salvation to every one that believes. 

Are we really unashamed of the gospel? Do people at your job or school even know that you're a Christian?  Have you shared the gospel with your family? Are you witnessing to strangers that you encounter? Do you read your bible in front of others? It's very disheartening that many professing Christians will flood your timeline talking about their children, sorority/fraternity, business, sports, tv shows, and other news but will never share the gospel. This is a fact, you may go to church, profess to be a Christian, and live a moral life but if you're ashamed of Jesus Christ and His words among the world He in return will be ashamed of YOU. Luke 9:26 For whoever is ashamed of Me and My words, the Son of Man will be ashamed of him when He comes in His glory, and the glory of the Father and of the holy angels. If we're holding back and care more about our reputation, what others think about us and refuse to say God's word, ultimately we're ashamed of Him. We might not say it verbally, but we are showing Him that we care more about human approval than God's glory. Our silence is approval. Do you stray away from controversial topics? Are you scared to tell others your stance on homosexuality, abortion, or pre-martial sex?

 I think the reason why many believers will not go hard for Christ is because we don't want to be an outcast, persecuted, talked about, and looked at as a religious zealot. We care more about what man thinks, than what God thinks. We think it's only Pastors and ministers job to proclaim the gospel and leave the dirty work to others. It's not enough for us to throw around God's name and try to sound positive and be a motivational speaker. We cannot ignore parts of God's Word because they are unpopular or cause division. Our commission is to proclaim Christ and all He stands for. In these last days we must ask God for a spiritual boldness. If we can't even proclaim the gospel while it's legal, then what are we going to do when it becomes illegal in America to preach the gospel? Christians overseas are losing their life for the faith and it won't be long before it comes to America. It should convict us all that little children are being killed because they won't denounce their faith, and over here we won't even risk being liked for our faith.

"If you're ashamed of the Lord Jesus Christ then it's possible that you don't know Him. If you're afraid to speak to your friends and relatives about the value and virtue of His blood that flowed at Calvary then you don't really love them. How could any true child of God; indwelt with the Holy Spirit; saved from the flames of torment in Hell; and with the love of God in their heart  be ASHAMED of speaking of the One who delivered them from eternal wrath?" 

I'd be lying if I said I'm always bold and don't worry about what others think about me. This year I faced one of the toughest challenges in my walk. I was led to go before my whole family at my grandmother's funeral and share the gospel  and warn them of hell. The whole week I dreaded it. All kind of negative thoughts consumed my mind and I was battling with the fear of man. I was literally shaking right before I went up and I had to depend on God. God strengthened me and I went up there and boldly proclaimed His word. Many of my family member's reactions shocked me. They were crying and seeds were definitely planted. I am weak, God is strong. He must increase, I must decrease. We must depend on God for boldness, not our own strength. It is natural for us to be afraid at times. The first step is admitting to God, that you are afraid to share His gospel. Pray to Him for boldness and ask Him for opportunities to share His gospel. As we grow in God, spend time in His word we become more bold and courageous in Him by the power of the Holy Spirit. No one wants to be hated by others and it will affect us at times when people call us names, but we must deny ourselves, pick up our cross, and frankly get over ourselves. It's not about us, it's about Christ.  2 Timothy 2:11 Here is a trustworthy saying: If we died with him, we will also live with him;if we endure, we will also reign with him. If we disown him, he will also disown us;

Revelation 21:8 But the cowardly, the unbelieving, the vile, the murderers, the sexually immoral, those who practice magic arts, the idolaters and all liars--they will be consigned to the fiery lake of burning sulfur. This is the second death. I always wondered why the cowards were listed among those who will burn in the lake of fire. How can we expect to reign with Christ when we denied Him while on earth? The cowardly are those who reject God mainly because of human opinions. If a man chooses to reject God just to fit in or to avoid danger, this would qualify him as a coward. Knowing Christ is real, he chooses to reject the message of God anyway out of fear of rejection, persecution, or death. The cowardly, who recant under persecution make no profession of Christ and his Gospel…lest they should be exposed to tribulation or persecution.

It's time to come out of the closet! There is no reason to be fearful. Greater is He who is in us than he that is in the world. We have the Holy Spirit in us, man can't do nothing to us. You can't kill a true Christian, you only change our address. Matthew 10:28 And do not fear those who kill the body but cannot kill the soul. Rather fear him who can destroy both soul and body in hell. Don't let people silence you. God is with us, if we are going to see souls saved we must be bold and unashamed. We must get out of our comfort zone. We must shun sin, speak out against the evil, and stand up for holiness and truth. We have nothing to lose but everything to gain! Can you imagine the day when we see our loving Savoir face to face. All of it will be worth it. Nothing else will matter but hearing, good job my faithful servant. Can you imagine all of the Saints of all the ages who have been maryted, shunned from their family,and lost everything they had for Christ together worshiping our King! What a glorious day that will be!  Matthew 19:29 And everyone who has left houses or brothers or sisters or father or mother or children or farms for My name's sake, will receive many times as much, and will inherit eternal life. 

Friday, June 27, 2014

The REAL reason why the world hates Christians

The REAL reason why the world hates Christians.

I hear all kind of excuses as to why the world hates Christians. "They're judgmental, harsh, self righteous, arrogant, holier than thou, critical, bigots,narrow-minded, and hypocrites." Many use these excuses to cover up the real reason for why they really don't like Christians. I was once on the opposite side, and I know how uncomfortable a true Christian made me feel. Their light exposed my darkness and what they said offended me because I knew I wasn't living right. I loved my sin and the message that they preached contradicted my entire lifestyle. Being real, a lot of people are "turned off" from Christianity because they want to be the god of their life. They want to make their own rules and live how they want, not submit to the Lord Jesus Christ. So they cover it up with "Christians are judgmental" and throw out all kind of excuses as to why they don't like Christians. The truth is offensive to those who are content with living a lie and you will make many enemies from preaching the truth! (Galatians 4:16 Have I then become your enemy by telling you the truth?) I know that we all can do a better job in being more gentle and patient with those who oppose the gospel but here are the REAL reasons why the world hates Christians!

1.The world loves it own
 An unsaved person can smell a true Christian from a mile away, and they typically don't like the smell. (John 15:19 If you were of the world, the world would love its own; but because you are not of the world, but I chose you out of the world, because of this the world hates you.) A godly life is going to be seen and going to be felt, and oftentimes going to be criticized and persecuted because the presence of Jesus is in your life so strong. Your life is like a mirror to them and it convicts them and makes them see the impurity and sin in their life. You think that people are happy that you're living for God and you no longer "turn up" and indulge in the sinful lifestyle like them? Nope! People like when you are just like them. They also only like people who stay and play in the gutter with them. When you rise above you will be despised and shunned. The world will celebrate and applaud your sin but talk bad about you when you choose to live Godly. When I was living in sin and ruining my life, no one had an opinion. Soon as I got saved, all of a sudden everyone had something to say. The world truly loves their own! (1 Peter 4:3 You have had enough in the past of the evil things that godless people enjoy-their immorality,lust, drunkenness, wild parties, and idolatry.Of course you former friends are surprised when you no longer plunge into the flood of wild and destructive things they do, so they slander you. )

2.The world hates Jesus 
Why are we trying to be loved and accepted by the same world that crucified our Savior? If the world hated and killed a perfect, sinless man, what do you think they're going to do to us?! If they called Jesus a demon what do you think they'll call us? The world hates Jesus because He stands against their wickedness,"the world cannot hate you but it hates me because I testify of it that their deeds are evil. For everyone who does evil hate the light and does not come to the light for fear that his deeds will  be exposed.(John 3:20) Jesus has always and will always be the most controversial figure in history. It’s far easier to get folks to agree about spirituality when it’s linked to “God” or some “Higher Power” but the moment you narrow the discussion to Jesus Christ you become the enemy of all. You can even say Buddha, Confucius, or Mohammed and no one cares. Say Jesus Christ is the only way, people get noticeably mad. Jesus is a stumbling block! Jesus challenged and rebuked the religious people of his time. He called out their hypocrisy and offended them, which drove them to kill Him. (John 15:20-21 Remember the word that I said to you, 'A slave is not greater than his master. If they persecuted me, they will persecute you. If they kept my word, they will also keep yours.but all these things they will do to you for my name's sake because they do not know the One who sent me.)

3.The gospel that we preach
The world hates the the TRUE gospel of Jesus Christ. The cross is offensive and foolishness to those who are perishing.( 1 Corinthians 1:18)  It's a two edged sword that pierces the heart and slashes through false religious ideologies. It wounds the conscience of the hardened sinners. It is a stone of stumbling and rock of offense to those who don't obey(1 peter 2:8) Oh yeah the world loves and embraces the FALSE GOSPEL of prosperity, self esteem, success, and motivational speaking. They love when people tickle their ears and tell them about getting their best life now and how they can live in the world and still have God. They love it because it's no conviction, it tells them exactly what they want in their carnal state, it tickles their ears, it doesn't make them see their sin and how they need to trust in Christ alone for salvation. (2 Timothy 4:3-4 For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears; and they shall turn away their ears from the truth, and shall be turned unto fables) They can't endure the true gospel of Jesus Christ. They don't want to hear that their good works are like filthy rags. They don't want to hear that there is only one way to God and heaven and unless they repent and trust in Christ they will perish. They don't want to hear about self denial and taking up their cross. They don't want to hear about suffering and persecution for Christ.

3. Genuine Christians are hated by the world, counterfeit are loved by the world.

Now the world loves the "fake Jesus" and "Fake Christianity." They love the "Jesus" they can pray to when they want blessings and allows them to live how they want but not the true Jesus of the bible. You ever wondered how so many celebrity pastors are bestfriends with Hollywood celebrities? You ever wondered how unbelievers re-post everything that certain pastors and professing Christians say? You ever wondered why certain Christians are so loved by the world?  Because they are of the world and there is no difference between them.(Luke 6:26 Woe to you when all people speak well of you, for so their fathers did to the false prophets.) They have a form of religion but deny the power thereof. A Christian who is loved and adored by the world is an oxymoron. A friend of the world is an enemy of God.(James 4:4) False Christians and preachers are loved by the world because they are of the world, preach another gospel, sugarcoat the word, tickle ears, say nothing to offend, and tell you everything you want to hear. Now, I do believe that God can use Christians to reach out to people in the world for a season but after a while they will begin to despise you because of that light. Can you imagine Paul the apostle and John the Baptist being besties with Oprah Winfrey and teaming up with her? She wouldn't want to be around them because they would have been rebuked her and called her to repentance.

4. The enemy has blinded the world
The enemy is the god of this world and has blinded the mind of unbelievers.  (2 Corinthians 4:4 in whose case the god of this world has blinded the minds of the unbelieving so that they might not see the light of the gospel of the glory of Christ, who is the image of God.) They have ears but can't hear, they have eyes but can't see. Our pride also keeps us blind because we think we know more because of our  intellect but the wisdom of the world is foolishness  to God. (1 Corinthians 3:18-19 Let no man deceive himself. If any man among you thinks that he is wise in this age, he must become foolish so that he may become wise. For the wisdom of the world is foolishness to God.) The gospel won't make sense in our natural mind, that's why it's by faith. The enemy wants the world to think that Christians are crazy and judgmental because he doesn't want them to come to the true knowledge of Jesus Christ. He wants to keep unbelievers far from Christians because he doesn't want them to be saved. His ultimate goal is the destruction of mankind, and he will do whatever in his power to keep people from the truth.We were once blind too, let's be patient and gentle with our approach. (2 Corinthians 4:3 And even if our gospel is veiled, it is veiled to those who are perishing)

5. All Christians will be persecuted 
God promised all believers persecution. He said that ALL those who live Godly in Christ Jesus WILL be persecuted.(2 Timothy 3:12) Now, I do understand that in America persecution is way more subtle. We're not being killed and put in jail for our faith YET, but there are still other forms of persecution. I do understand that some Christians are persecuted for being rude and arrogant, but true Christians everywhere will be persecuted. On social networks, you will get cursed out and harassed for quoting scriptures, calling out sin, or standing up for God's word. You will become the black sheep of your family for living a Godly life, and many will turn on you. You will all of a sudden become an outcast by former friends, co-workers, and even church members. You will even be spat on or assaulted for preaching the gospel. If people don't have dirt on you, they will make up something. (Matthew 5:11-12 Blessed are you when people insult you and persecute you, and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of Me.Rejoice and be glad, for your reward in heaven is great; for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you)

6.This world is not our home
This world is not our home. We are foreigners, nomads, and aliens. We are in the world but not of it!  We are not meant to fit or blend in, we are meant to stand out and be a salt and a  light in a dark place. We are not to get comfortable with this world, our home awaits us in Heaven with Jesus forever!  (Hebrews 13:14 For this world is not our home; we are looking forward to our city in Heaven which is yet to come,)

Just because the world hate you, doesn't mean we should give them a extra reason to. It should ONLY be because of the Christ that's in us and the gospel that we preach. We are to let the word of God offend, not our demeanor, arrogance, or harsh speech. We should not glorify or boast in being hated. We should always be driven by love and go the extra mile even when we're insulted or harshly treated. ( 2 timothy 2:24 The Lord's bond-servant must not be quarrelsome but kind to all, able to teach, patient when wrong, with gentleness correcting those in opposition, if perhaps God may grant them repentance leading the the knowledge of truth.) We are not fighting against them, we're fighting for them. The lost are not our enemy, satan is. We have to remember that we were once lost and blinded also but by God's grace and mercy he opened our eyes and graciously saved us. Our ultimate goal should be to see the lost saved, not to prove a point, debate with them, or belittle them. (Jude 1:22 And have mercy on some, who are doubting;save others, snatching them out of the fire; and on some have mercy with fear, hating even the garment polluted by the flesh.)

I made this blog to  encourage my brothers and sisters in the faith who are hated for Christ. Also, to shed light on the true reason for why Christians are hated. The media tries to make Christians look a certain way, but Jesus already told us we would be hated for His name. Sometimes,we think that we are doing something wrong when we are hated and receive backlash. No matter how loving and gentle you are with people, some will still hate it and we must accept that. All Christians from  the early church until now will be hated by the world. Let's be like Paul  and rejoice when we are persecuted for the sake of the gospel! (Acts 5:41 And they departed from the presence of the council, rejoicing that they were counted worthy to suffer shame for his name.) Let's take on the attitude of our Lord Jesus Christ and endure through hardships.Let's always examine ourselves and make sure that our heart is in the right place. Let's pray for those who hate us, and pray for our brothers and sisters across the world being persecuted. Let's sympathize with them and continue to show sincere love. Let's continue spreading the gospel, being a light, and fervently serving the Lord. You may be hated by this world but know that you are loved by God! Grace and peace.