Monday, March 17, 2014

Help me I fell and I can't get up

Everyone's story is different. Some Christians remain pure until marriage after being converted, but unfortunately some fall into sexual sin. My sister Brittnie was saved and celibate for 11 months when she fell. Her motives was to share the gospel with this guy, but he had another agenda. Brittnie's story goes to show us that Christians may fall into sin, but God will discipline them and bring them unto repentance.

Brittnie Writes:

#HonestyMoment So today is March 17th. This is day is so important to me, because I have been walking in celibacy for a full year. This day last year, was the last time I had sex. I got saved over two years ago, so apparently I fell into sexual sin. The bible clearly tells us "do not be unequally yoked to unbelievers"- 2 Corinthians 6:14. What did I do? I went and got involved with someone who was/is not a believer. The relationship started out as friends but it quickly turned sexual, as do most guy and girl relationships. I had previously been celibate for 11 months and was nearing a year. I had sex instead of leaving him alone, I continued on in my disobedience, and as a result, I fell several more times. It was one of the hardest times in my Christian walk, and I strayed from God. I felt guilt, ashamed, foolish and I didn't believe God could use me any longer, even though, I know his word says, "if we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to cleanse us from all unrighteousness"- 1 John 1:9. I put my self in a time out box from God, and instead of running to his arms, I ended up sinning way more. When I finally snapped out of my little funk, I made a vow to God that I wouldn't have sex with another man unless he was my husband. Fast forward one year, God forgave me, restored me, and elevated me way more spiritually than he ever has, and I am still being used by God. He used this experience not only to humble me, but, also that I'd always remember that although sin is pleasurable for a moment, nothing good and of eternal value come from it, true peace is found in the will of God, and I'm truly happy to be in his perfect will and to be used by him. I've waited a year, I know I can wait until wedding night, not because of my will power or anything in me, because my flesh is so weak, and it's always trying to give in to sinful pleasures, but because I've put my hope and my trust in the Lord, and he is faithful. "Therefore we also, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which so easily ensnares us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, looking unto Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith."- Hebrews 12:1-2

1. Christians don't practice sin Christians are not perfect or sinless. Christians can fall into sin and carnality but to say that a Christian can live in sin and carnality all the days of their life is complete heresy. With Brittnie's story, she fell into sin but she repented. When Christians sin we feel conviction and remorse and we repent of the sin. God will not let His children look, talk, and act like the world and life a life of sin. To practice sin means to live an ongoing life of habitually sinning. A life that is marked by unbroken patterns of sin. If you profess to be a Christian but your'e living in sin and you feel no conviction and you're loving it then you should examine yourself. One of the distinguishing marks of a true Christian is they practice righteousness not lawlessness, and  feel conviction for sin and it's no longer pleasurable. {1 John 3:7-9 Little children, make sure no one deceives you; the one who practices righteousness is righteous, just as He is righteous;the one who practices sin is of the devil; for the devil has sinned from the beginning. The Son of God appeared for this purpose, to destroy the works of the devil.No one who is born of God practices sin, because His seed abides in him; and he cannot sin, because he is born of God.}

2. God disciplines those who belong to Him Brittnie's story is a prime example of God disciplining His children. I remember Brittnie was so miserable during this time. She was so convicted and was  very distant from me. Discipline is not to be confused with cold-hearted punishment. The Lord's discipline is a response of His love for us and His desire for each of us to be holy. “My son, do not despise the LORD’s discipline and do not resent his rebuke, because the LORD disciplines those he loves, as a father the son he delights in”.(Proverbs 3:11-12) God will use testing, trials, and various predicaments to bring us back to Himself in repentance. The result of His discipline is a stronger faith and a renewed relationship with God, not to mention destroying the hold that particular sin had over us. {Hebrews 12:8 If you are not disciplined and everyone undergoes discipline then you are not legitimate, not true sons and daughters at all.}

3. Boundaries- Many people will say that you're too extreme if you don't talk, text and inbox people of the opposite sex. Everything starts out as innocent but it doesn't always end that way, God told us to flee sexual immorality and sin.  I hear too many stories of Christians trying to be friends or witness to an unbeliever of the opposite sex then they fall into sin. The enemy knows our weakness, why flirt with sin when you can flee it. If a guy comes to you saying He wants to know about Christ, refer him to a trusted brother that can help. We have to stay on guard and be aware of the ploys of the enemy. {1 Peter 5:8 Be of sober spirit, be on the alert. Your adversary, the devil, prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.}

4.True repentance- Repentance is not just feeling bad or sad about sinning. Repentance is not saying God I'm sorry forgive me but doing it every other day. Many people are sorry about the consequences that the sin brought, not the sin itself. Godly sorrow results from a heart-felt conviction that we have offended God by our sin. True repentance is a change of mind and heart that results in an action. If we truly feel sorrow and remorse we will do everything in our power to fight sin. {2 Corinthians 7:10 For the sorrow that is according to the will of God produces a repentance without regret, leading to salvation, but the sorrow of the world produces death.}

5.Sin is only pleasurable for a season If you have truly been born again, sin will only be pleasurable for a season. The enemy's greatest deception is to make us think we're missing out when we get saved. Sin will always cost you more than you intended to pay, it will take you further than you intended to go, and it will keep you longer than you intended to stay.You go online and see all your old friends partying, dating around, and looking like their having the time of their life. You start to think that your life is boring and you're missing out. Sin is only pleasurable for a season. It glitters but it's not gold. It's all a visage. The consequences are not worth the eternal damnation. {Romans 6:23 For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.}

6.Condemnation is from the enemy.  One of the most effective tricks Satan plays on Christians is to convince us that our sins aren't really forgiven, despite the promise of God's Word.Another one of Satan’s tricks is to get us to think that there is no hope, that there is no possibility that we can be forgiven, healed, and restored. He will try to get us to feel consumed and trapped by guilt so that we do not feel worthy of God’s forgiveness any longer. Condemnation and conviction are totally different. Conviction is from the Holy Spirit that is meant to lead you to repentance. Condemnation  is meant to tear you down and make you think there is no hope.{Romans 8:1 There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.}

7.Christ is bigger than your sin. Jesus came into the world to save sinners. He drunk the cup of wrath and bore our sins on the cross. It is finished! Our sins was taken care of at the cross. Christ is bigger than the sexual sin, porn, masturbation, stealing, lying, etc. Don't give in, fight it! No matter what trials and temptations come our way, God’s Word and Spirit are more powerful than sin or temptation.  {Hebrews 12:4 In your struggle against sin you have not yet resisted to the point of shedding your blood.}

7. Confess your sins to your friends As Christians, we have to have accountable people around us. We should be able to confess our sins to each other and pray with one another. This walk is no cup cake walk. If you have friends who wink and encourage your sinful ways, then it's time to get new friends! If you have "yes mans" in your corner who are afraid to rebuke you when wrong, then it's time to get some new friends! {James 5:16 Therefore, confess your sins to one another, and pray for one another so that you may be healed. The effective prayer of a righteous man can accomplish much.} We should have friends in our corner who will pray for us, fast with us, and not look down at us for our sins. {Galatians 6:1 Brethren, even if anyone is caught in any trespass, you who are spiritual, restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness; each one looking to yourself, so that you too will not be tempted.}

Get back up!!

I know how it is when you sin. You feel so terrible because you know that you're breaking God's heart and you feel so unworthy. Get back up, run to the arms of the one who can heal, restore, and replenish you. Cry out to God, fast, and pray. Don't have the mentality that since you've already sinned, you might as well keep going. Confess your sins and repent! Constantly renew your mind in God's word, listen to sermons, worship music and meditate on the word. Cut off anything or anyone that is causing your walk with Christ to dwindle. Walk in the spirit so you won't gratify the desires of the flesh. Sin no longer reign us, Christ broke the power when we were born again. Walk in victory through Jesus Christ!

**This blog was written for those who have been born again and fell. If you haven't been born again or you're unsure then this doesn't apply to you. We are only forgiven in Christ.On our own, we stand condemned. If you are unsure or want to talk please contact me!
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