Worldly Women Vs Godly Women
I want to make this very clear that just because a woman is a Minister, Pastor's daughter, Pastor's wife, serve in church, apart of a Christian organization, is moral, or posts about God doesn't make us a woman of God! There are many women in the church with the title as a 'Godly woman', but look no different from women in the world besides church attendance and morality. A true woman of God has been born again and seeks to please God in everything, repentant, and lives on the narrow path!
A woman in the world can be a faithful church goer, serve in church, moral, apart of a Christian organization, sweet and talk about God but she is not deeply rooted in Christ and has no passion for God or lost souls. She may be celibate, serve in church, or quote scriptures but there is no true love for God or His word. She may pray to God when she needs something or out of obligation but she doesn't have a deep prayer life. You will see many worldly women talking about God one minute, then turning up, having sex and cursing the next. She is very double-minded. She gets bored talking about God and the gospel, she rather talk about other things. She is not broken over her sin, as long as she looks moral before others she is okay. She seeks to please herself and look good before others above everything else. In church and on social media she may be one way, but when you get her alone she's a completely different person. She may compromise on anything if she likes you enough and if you tell her what she wants to hear.
Christ is a Godly's woman life. Everything that she does stems from her relationship with Christ. She isn't overly-religious or churchy, her love for God is natural flowing and not forced. God's word is the standard by which she lives and base everything on. The Godly woman communes with God and has an intimate relationship with the Lord. She depends on Him and feasts upon His word. She not only reads the word, she seeks to keep it. She is passionate about Christ and her heart's desire is to share the gospel and make disciples. She is conscious and sensitive of all of all the areas in her life that are unlike God and prays and depend on God to help her in the areas that she falls short in. She seeks to please God above everything else. She is deeply rooted in the word of God (if she's a new believer she's growing to know who God is). She seeks to be the same in church, on social media, in public and in private.
Worldly women often times pride themselves off their looks and achievements. They boast about their accolades, followers, title, career, and how much money they make. It's all about them. She will put her career and pleasures before her husband and family. She only cares about her kid's dressing nice, their extra-curricular activities and their education.. she isn't concerned with their spiritual well-being. She looks up to and idolize celebrities who are "successful" in the world. She strives to be the next house wife, Beyonce, Oprah, and tries to "keep up with the Kardashians" because she is so mesmerized with their glamorous & lavish life, expensive bags, and money.
A Godly woman may have alot to boast in but she boasts in Christ alone. She knows that apart from Him she's nothing. She know that her achievements, degrees, career, minus Christ is vain and holds no eternal value. A godly woman doesn't strive to be "successful" by the world's standards, she strives to be successful according to God's standards which is by obedience and conformity to His will. God and her family comes before anything. She's not trying to "keep up with the Jones" she does what is best for her household because her main goal is to raise her kids in the fear and ammunition of the Lord. She cares about her children's education but more than anything she cares about them living for God and doing what God called them to do. She strives to be like older Christian women and be a Proverbs 31 woman. She is not trying to be like celebrities because she knows the things that they stand for, the way that they live, and what they promote contradicts God's word.
Worldly women are more than likely attracted to carnal aspects of a man. How they look, dress, how much money they make, their degrees, accolades, social status, will they make cute kids, how fly his car is, how good he is in bed, how he makes her feel and temporal things that have no eternal value.
I won't say that a Godly woman won't be attracted to the exterior. Before we know anything about a man, we only see how they look. Saved or not, we all want to be attracted to our husband! A Godly woman will check out how he looks but more than anything she will be attracted to who he is spiritually. She is concerned about can he provide for her, his prayer life, can he lead her, protect her purity, does he have a vision, hear clearly from the Lord, can he teach her the word, be a good example for her (future) children, and how he interacts with other women. She is attracted to his leadership, self control, his submission to Christ no matter what the cost, his devotion to fervent prayer, and his heart to reach people with the gospel of Christ.
Courting and Dating
A worldly woman will give out her number, flirt, or date any guy who she finds attractive, has something to offer her, or just to have a good ol' time. She has no problem with having sex before marriage, spending the night with you, taking vacations with you, or moving in with you before you're her husband. In her eyes, nothing is wrong with it. There are some worldly women who do see a problem with having sex before marriage, but it's not because they truly fear God and want to please Him. It centers around them and their selfish desires.
A woman of God knows that her time is precious. She doesn't give out her number or date any guy that comes along. She knows who she is in Christ and her standards are based on God's word, not based upon conditions and her feelings.. She's not trying to have any man, she's waiting for her husband. You have to go through her father to get to her! Even though she may be tempted at times and weak, she will seek to honor God with her body. I won't say that a Godly woman can't fall into sexual sin and make mistakes in their area(I know some who have but they repented and are walking in purity again) but she will be convicted unto repentance, uncomfortable and grieved about sinning against God. She will not use scriptures to justify why she can sleep with her boyfriend.
Worldly women screech at the word submission. Many have the mindset that,"I'm independent. I got my own, I'm not submitting to no man this ain't the 1950's!" She doesn't practice prudence or discretion, she pops off at the mouth.(Proverbs 11:22 Like a gold ring in a pig's snout is a beautiful woman without discretion). She is very quarrelsome and when she's having problems with her husband, she will nag him to death, complain, and run and tell all of her friends what's going in. (Proverbs 25:24) She doesn't have a relationship with Christ, so she expects her husband to fulfill her every need and desire. She puts unrealistic expectations on him that only Christ can fill. She has this view of marriage to fill her void and make her happy.
Godly women whether single or married knows and embraces her God given role. She embraces her role of being a help meet and submitting to her husband. (Colossians 3:18) She knows God's design and portrait of a Godly marriage. She understands that her husband can't fulfill her every need, want, and desire only Christ can. When things are going wrong, although she is agitated she is careful with her words and speaks with wisdom. (Proverbs 31:26) She is very discreet, when they're having problems and she doesn't nag him or run to her friends, she goes to the Lord and pray because she know prayer changes things! She knows that marriage is the picture between Christ and his church, she doesn't go to marriage looking to fill a void she knows that it will make her holy.
You will see the acts of the flesh in a worldly's woman life. (Galatians 5:19-21 The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions, and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.) A worldly woman's love is conditional, based on how others treat her. She doesn't forgive easily, she constantly bring up everything and remind you of what you've done in the past. She harbors hurt,anger, and bitterness. She's passionate about worldly success, the temporal things of the world. She can be controlling, unsubmissive to God, leadership, and authority.
You will see the fruits of the spirit manifested a woman of God's life.(Galatians 5:22-23 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.) Her love for others is unconditional, no matter how they treat her because she knows the author of love, God. She builds up people and tears down the lies of the enemy. She is devoted to purity and chastity, able to forgive and freely extend mercy and grace, passionate about Christ, her words are sincere, she's selfless, sensitivity to God’s Word and to His Spirit, sensitive to the sin in her life, able to speak the truth in love, submissive to Christ, leadership, and authority.
You want to know who a woman is?? Look at her friends, they are a reflection of her!( Amos 3:3 Can two walk together, except they agree) A worldly woman may have friends who they've been down for years. They may be loyal to each other and have a great friendship but they are not pushing each other closer to God. I personally called alot of my friendships in the world "sinships" we had nothing in common but sin. We never talked about anything deep, never went through anything..we just partied, gossiped, and sinned together!
A godly woman may not have a lot of friends, but the friends that she do have will be solid believers who keep her accountable and push her closer to Christ. They have a deep intimate bond that is founded upon Christ and His word. They will laugh, cry, pray, sharpen one another(Proverbs 27:17) and confess their sins to one another (James 5:16.) Her friends will never give her advice that contradicts God's word.
I pray after reading this, that many of us men and women have a new perspective of what a woman of God is. I want to state again, that it's ONLY because of the Holy spirit convicting us, working in us, changing us, and teaching us that equips us to be women of God. This blog challenged me also, because I am striving to be the woman that God created me to. After reading this blog and you may realize..
- You thought you were this Godly woman the whole time but you realize that you may be worldly: Please email me so that I can share with you God's plan of salvation (email@example.com)
- You are saved but you still have a lot of worldliness in you: Ask God to change YOU to become a godly woman who can deeply and richly bless a godly man one day. Let go of worldly friends, practices, shows or whatever else is taking your heart away from God.
- You are a Godly man and realize that you've been going for worldly woman even though they're in church. It's easy to get caught up in the exterior, because she's pretty, sweet, and kind. Truly seek the Lord , fast, and pray and don't compromise!
- If you are a Godly woman and seek to be the woman God designed you to be! Continue digging deep in the word, prayer,and staying sensitive to the Holy Spirit. Allow His spirit to sanctify you and change you from the inside out!
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