Saturday, September 14, 2019

Trading in behavior modification for God's transformation

Image result for black woman with bibleWhen I was in the world, there were many times when I tried to "get myself together." I tried to stop clubbing, stop cursing, and stop having sex. I tried to start going to church more, watching sermons, and reading my bible. Sadly, it never lasted and I was right back to my old life. I tried to change my behavior when the problem was my sinful heart. Praise God in 2012, the Lord miraculously saved me and radically transformed my life. I've been very vocal about faith and throughout the years and people who knew me in the world would always ask me how did I change my life around. Many of us
 think that Christianity is simply changed behavior, morality, steps, and following formulas. I pray that this blog shatters the false notion of behavior modification and brings light to the freedom, supernatural work of God, and life transformation of the gospel of Jesus Christ!

"Jesus didn't come into the world to make bad men good. He came into the world to make dead men alive" -Leonard Ravenhill

                             The Problem

1  1.  Sinful by nature

Because of the fall of mankind in Genesis 3, we are all born into sin. Romans 5:12 Therefore, just as sin came into the world through one man, and death through sin, and so death spread to all men because all sinned. It's not that there comes a moment in our life when we decide to welcome sin into our heart. Sin is an uninvited inheritance from birth. {Psalm 51:5 Behold, I was shapen in iniquity; and in sin did my mother conceive me.} No one has to teach a child to lie or be selfish; rather, sinful behavior comes naturally. Because of our sin nature we are rebellious, hostile,  at enmity with God, and by nature children of wrath.(Romans 8:7, Ephesians 2:3).

2. The root is our heart

The problem is the human heart. Jeremiah 17:9  The heart is deceitful above all things, And desperately wicked; Who can know it? Our lifestyle is a reflection of what's in our heart. So no matter how much we try to change our behavior, our heart remains the same. Can you imagine having problems with your car and you take it to a mechanic? The mechanic only washes your car and never looks at the engine to see what's wrong. Sure, the car looks good on the outside but the problem is on the inside. This is the same with us! If we want to deal with sin, we must aim at the right target. That target is not merely bad behavior but the sinful desires of the heart that produce the behavior. This is the very reason why Jess rebuked the Pharisees. They focused on the outside but ignored the inside. Matthew 23:25-26 Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you clean the outside of the cup and the plate, but inside they are full of greed and self-indulgence. You blind Pharisee! First clean the inside of the cup and the plate, that the outside also may be clean.

 3. Better morals and Better behavior isn’t the solution

The solution to the immorality of our culture isn't better morality. The solution to the sin in our own lives isn't changed behavior. It is the life transforming truth of the gospel. For many of us, we know that our life isn't pleasing to God. Our natural instinct is to try to change our behavior. This type of living only leads to bondage, frustration and eventually returning back to our old life. It breaks my heart that there are many people who are caught up in churches and ministries that teach behavior modification, formulas, and legalism instead of the gospel. Many of these people are frustrated feeling like they can never "measure up" to the Christian standard because they're seeking to change their behavior without first being transformed by Christ. For my moral friend who may feel like this doesn't apply to you because you are already a "good" person. If we're trusting in our good behavior and good works rather than Christ, we fall in the same category. No matter how many good things we are doing in our strength, those who are in the flesh and are not born again cannot please God. Romans 8:8 Those who are in the flesh cannot please God. 

                   The Solution

         1.The gospel 

God is holy, perfect, just and no sin can dwell in His presence(Psalm 5:4, Habakkuk 1:13). Because of our sin, we stand under God's wrath and deserve judgment. Out of God's grace, love, mercy and kindness He had a plan to send the Lord Jesus Christ in the world to become the sacrifice for our sin.(1 John 2:2, Matthew 1:21, Hebrews 9:12). For our sake he made him to be sin who knew no sin, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God.  2 Corinthians 5:21. We are saved by grace through faith in Christ alone(Ephesians 2:8-9). Not by changing our behavior, trying to be a good person, or by following rules. God has promised for those who repent and believe on Christ alone, they will be justified, forgiven, reconciled, adopted, and have eternal life.  Romans 6:23 For the wages of sin is death but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus.  

 2. New birth

In our first birth we are born into sin, this is why Jesus says that we must be born again. Jesus answered him, “Truly, truly, I say to you, unless one is born again he cannot see the kingdom of God.”John 3:3. The new birth is a spiritual awakening that takes us out of a state of spiritual death into a state of spiritual life. In the new birth God gives us a new heart, new desires, new affections, and seals us with His Holy Spirit. Ezekiel 36:26 I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh. The new birth is literally the greatest miracle that can ever happen. God takes sinful, rebellious, hostile people who were once His enemies and makes us His children. Romans 5:10 For if while we were enemies we were reconciled to God by death of his Son, much more new that we are reconciled, shall we be saved by His life.  There is no such thing as a boring testimony. If the Lord has saved you it is a miracle and we ought to praise God for it!! 

  3. Transformation

God doesn’t save a person and allows them to live the same ol’ empty, sinful, and worldly life that they once did. He makes us a new creation. Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come. 2 Corinthians 5:17.  If God's seed abides in us we WILL bear His fruit. (John 15, 1 John 3:9) If God has changed our heart and made us a new creation, it will be evident. What happens on the inside will manifest on the outside. I’m not talking about sinless perfection but a new direction. Imagine you driving somewhere only to find out that you’re going the wrong way. You would have to completely make a u-turn to get to your destination. This is the same with the Christian life, God completely changes the direction of our life because we now have a new destination. 

Now, I don't want anyone to think I'm insinuating that we will become perfect once we become Christians. When God saves us, He doesn't completely eradicate our sinful nature(1 John 1:8). Christians can fail and give in to the flesh but they will be broken over sin and repent. We still have a flesh that we must die to and wage war with daily(Luke 9:23, Romans 8:13). This is why we must continue to renew our mind in God's word so that we will be transformed(Romans 12:2).  Praise God that we have the Holy Spirit and the grace of God. Titus 2:11-15  For the grace of God has appeared that offers salvation to all people. It teaches us to say “No” to ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright and godly lives in this present age.

We don't need changed behavior, we need a changed heart. Only the God who created us has the power to change our sinful heart. My dear sisters and brothers, I plead with you to give up all hope in trying to clean up your life up and trying to be a better person. This is also for the moralist and self-righteous. Those who think that they are righteous based off of their own good behavior. Nothing that we do will ever justify us or make us acceptable to a holy God. Christ has already lived the life that we could never live and died the death that we deserved so that we can be acceptable to God. Christ came to seek and save the lost. He is mighty to save. Come to Him now and seek Him while he may be found. He is our only hope in this dark world! Acts 4:12 And there is salvation is no one else. for there is no other name under Heaven given among men by which we must be saved.

Thursday, March 15, 2018

10 things to look for in a biblically sound church

As believers, our local church plays such a pivotal role in our spiritual life. We must seek a local church where we can worship in spirit & truth, serve, pray, learn & apply the word, and fellowship with other like-minded believers.  We are in perilous times where many churches today are simply social clubs and look absolutely nothing like a biblical church. We must be prayerful, wise and discerning when choosing a local church. I pray that this blog can shed light on what to look for in a healthy church!

1. Sound teaching

The purpose of preaching is to deliver the truth of God's word. Does the Pastor teach sound doctrine that aligns with God's word?(Titus 2:1) Does the Pastor exegete scripture and preach the word in it's proper context? Does the Pastor use the pulpit to edify, correct, rebuke, encourage, and exalt Christ?(2 Timothy 4:2) Or does he use the pulpit for fleshly rants, jokes, manipulation, and to tickle ears?(2 Timothy 4:3) Are his sermons narcissistic and self-centered? Or does the message always point back to Christ? Does he preach feel good sermons that focuses only on what God can do for you? Are his messages very shallow and avoid any depth of the word? Or powerful convicting sermons that challenges you and causes you to examine yourself? Is Jesus preached in His rightful place as a sovereign Ruler and King who will one day judge the world? Or does he simply preach Jesus as a genie in the bottle and your free ticket to get prosperity, blessings, and your "best life now"? 

2. Biblical leadership

God has set out certain guidelines for His church. He has called for men to lead not only in the homes but also in the church(1 Timothy 3:1-13; Titus 1:6-9). It's not that women are inadequate or inferior, it's simply God's design and order! Women are gifted in so many ways and still can effectively minister, preach the gospel, disciple and serve in the body of Christ. Women just aren't called to Pastor or Co-pastor a church!(1 Timothy 2:11-14) If a church is willing to bend on church leadership, what else are they willing to bend on?

3. The Gospel is clearly and faithfully presented

A biblically sound church faithfully preaches the gospel. The gospel is the power of God unto salvation and the method of how God saves(Romans 1:16,Romans 10:14). Do they preach that we are separated from God because of sin and stand under God's wrath?(John 3:36,Ephesians 2:3) Do they teach that Christ came to save us from sin(Galatians 1:4) to reconcile us to God(2 Corinthians 5:18) forgive us(1 john 1:9) give us eternal life(Romans 6:23). Do they preach repentance and faith in Christ alone?(Matthew 4:17,Romans 2:4) Do they preach Christ as the only way to be saved?(John 14:6,Acts 4:12) Do they teach on God's judgment and hell for those who reject Christ?(Revelation 20:11-15, Romans 2:5) Are do they believe everyone will go to Heaven?

4. Clear understanding of conversion

The leaders of a biblically sound church have a clear understanding of how conversion works. It is our responsibility to preach the gospel but only God does the saving. Do they teach the necessity of the new birth?(John 3:3) Do they teach on how we are justified before God? (Romans 5:1) Do they try to coerce and emotionalize people at the end of their sermon to walk an aisle to repeat a "sinner's prayer" or to make a decision?  Do they tell people to "just believe" or "accept Jesus" without any explanation of repentance and saving faith? Or do they believe and teach that salvation is all a work of God and not human effort?(John 3:8) Do they teach that salvation is a free gift given? ( Ephesians 2:8,)  Or do they teach a works based salvation and other unbiblical methods for salvation? That we must try harder, perform better, change our externals and do enough "good works" to be saved.

5. Christ exalting

The whole purpose of church is to exalt and glorify the Lord Jesus Christ.(1 Corinthians 10:31) Our worship, preaching, and giving should always center around Christ.  Is Christ truly at the forefront of this church? Is the church modeled after scripture or the latest church growth model? Is the church seeker friendly where their whole aim is to entertain and get more members? Is the church more consumed with Christ or the Pastor's life? 

6. Leaders of integrity

Is the Pastor qualified to lead a church according to scripture? Does the Pastor have elders and deacons to hold him accountable? Has he been involved in church scandals? Is he known for infidelity? Pastors aren't perfect but they are held at a higher standard. You want to sit under a man of God who can shepherd you and model the Christian life before you! (Hebrews 13:7) A Pastor is called to live above reproach(1 timothy 3:2). He must be faithful and devoted to his wife.(Titus 1:6, 1,1 Timothy 3:12) humble, not arrogant (Titus 1:7). Gentle ,not quick-tempered (Titus 1:7; 1 Tim 3:3)Sober, not a drunkard (Titus 1:7; 1 Tim 3:3)  Upright in his financial dealings and not accused of pursuing money over the kingdom of God.(Titus 1:7; 1 Tim 3:3; 1 Peter 5:3) hospitable, self-controlled and holy (Titus 1:8; 1 Tim 3:2) and an example to the flock.(1 Peter 5:3)

7. Accountability & Church Discipline

At a biblically sound church, you have brothers and sisters in the Lord who truly love you and care about your soul. How do they handle when someone is in sin? Do they shun the person? Do they lovingly call you to repentance and seek to walk with you in restoration? Or do they say nothing? Saying nothing is saying something. We are condoning sin by our silence. If someone is caught in sin, they should restore that person gently while being careful not to fall into temptation. (Galatians 6:1) Do the leaders keep a watch for your soul?(Hebrews 13:17) Is unrepentant sin rampant and allowed in the church? Does the church practice church discipline? (Matthew 18:15-20, 1 Corinthians 5:1-13) Church discipline is the process of correcting sinful behavior among members for the purpose of protecting the church and restoring the member.

8. Evangelistic

We're not called to stay in the 4 walls of the church. We're not called to simply invite the lost to our church. Christ has given us a mandate to go into the world, proclaim the gospel, and make disciples. Is this church seeking to obey the great commission?(Matthew 28:18) Do the people at the church have a heart and burden for lost souls? Do the leaders encourage evangelism? Are they equipping members with apologetics and biblical truth to contend for the faith?(jude 1:3) Do they care about building God's church or only making a name for themselves and getting more members? 

9. Affiliations 

Who does the church affiliate with? Do they partner with other gospel saturated churches? Who does the Pastor follow and quote on social media?(YES DO YOUR HOMEWORK!:-)) Do the leaders affirm, partner and endorse false teachers? You ever heard the old saying,"Birds of a feather flock together." If a Pastor is associating with questionable or false teachers, this may be a clear indicator that they are also false(Amos 3:3)  Leaders are suppose to guard their sheep from wolves not lead them to the slaughter. We are called to avoid those who preach false doctrine not endorse them. (Romans 16:17 I appeal to your brothers to watch out for those who cause divisions and create obstacles contrary to the doctrine you have been taught; avoid them)

10. Repentance and reconciliation

There is no perfect church! It can be very hard and get messy walking closely with other people, even as believers. Can I get an amen?! We're all being sanctified and must remember to extend the same grace and mercy that we need. There is also an enemy who hates the church and seeks to divide God's people.  In the midst of everything do you see a body of broken believers who are repentant and broken over sin? Who wants to honor and serve the Lord? Who seeks reconciliation? Who walks in forgiveness?  Who confess their sins and pray for one another?

I encourage everyone who is looking for a local church to TAKE YOUR TIME and DO YOUR HOMEWORK!! Continue to visit the church, meet with a Pastor or an elder to ask questions that you may have, listen to their sermons, check out their social media pages, seek wise counsel, and continue to pray and seek the Lord. If you read this blog and you realize that you may be at a false church, I encourage you to find a biblically sound church. Please don't stay at a false church out of loyalty. Our primary loyalty and allegiance must be to God and His word. Please join me in praying for all of the godly Pastors who faithfully shepherd their local church. Also pray for believers who knowingly or unknowingly sit under false teachers. That the Lord may open their eyes to the deception and send them to a Christ exalting biblical church!

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Sunday, November 12, 2017

What to look for in a godly man?

A godly marriage requires a godly man and a godly woman. What are the essential traits that a Christian woman should look for in a man she would consider dating or marrying?

1. He must be in Christ

It's not enough that he goes to church, has a title, serves in church, posts about God online, or is a Preacher's kid. It's not enough that he calls himself a Christian. He must be born again and made a new creation in Christ.(John 3:3, 2 Corinthians 5:17) Only when he is born again is He able to (by the power of the Holy Spirit) live a righteous and godly life. What is his conversion story? At what point in his life did he turn from sin and worldliness to serve Christ? Is there a consistent and clear pattern of godly living? Is he pursuing holiness? Or is he double-minded, worldly and in & out the church?  If a guy isn't in Christ no matter how much he performs and tries to "live right" through time you will see his true fruit. He must abide in Christ to bear His fruit.(John 15:4) Inspite of flaws, a man who is in Christ has a genuine love for the Lord and desires to honor Him with his life.

2. Leader

God has called for men to lead. A woman who is submitted to Christ and understands her role desires for a man to lead. C'mon somebody! As Christian women we want to feel secure and comfortable that a man can effectively lead. Is he passive with no backbone? Has he allowed women to control him in the past? Can you see yourself submitting to him? Can you see him leading you spiritually and setting an example to follow? (If he is younger or newer in the faith, he may not be very experienced in leading. It's unfair to compare him to seasoned men of God who have way more years of experience. However, he should prayerfully and actively work on developing leadership.)

3. Broken over sin 

Even as a man of God, he won't be perfect as we are all being sanctified!(1 John 1:8) The question is how does he respond when he falls short? Does he even care that he sinned against God? Does he justify and try to cover up his sin? Or is he broken, grieved, and repentant over sin? Our relationship with sin reveals our relationship with God. If a man loves God, he will also hate his sin. No matter how much he may claim to love God, if he's at peace in a sinful lifestyle it's a clear indicator that he may not know the Lord.(1 John 2:4) Believers should be responsible for our sin being reminded of the gospel, that if we confess our sins Christ is faithful and just to forgive us.(1 John 1:9) You will not see perfection but we should be broken, at war, and repentant over sin.(2 Corinthians 7:10)

“It is not the absence of sin but the grieving over it which distinguishes the child of God from empty professors” -A.w. Pink

4. Spirit-led

Is he very impulsive and makes decisions without prayer or godly counsel? Or does he pray and seek God's direction first? Does he try to make things happen on his own or does he allow God in His timing to open doors? In his pursuit of you is he spirit led? Or is he all over the place, up and down and inconsistent? Do you see more of the fruits of the spirit or deeds of the flesh in his life? (Galatians 5:16-25)

5. Humble and Teachable

How does he respond when he's confronted with sin? How does he respond when he's corrected? Does he ignore everyone and accuses them of being haters, jealous or judgmental? Even if it's not immediately can he come back and take accountability for his actions and humbly admit his mistakes? Can he apologize when he's wrong? Can he take criticism? Does he listen? Or is he a know it all who is prideful, unteachable, and arrogant?

6. Discipline and Self-control

When it comes to sexual purity how is he? Is he seeking to guard his eyes and heart from lust? Does he justify sex outside of marriage? How does he interact with other women? Does he have a reputation of sliding in different women dm? If a man lacks discipline in singleness, it will only manifest in marriage.  If a man cannot be faithful to God with his body in singleness how can you expect him to be faithful to you in marriage? Marriage doesn't cure lust, it only exposes it more! (I truly believe there are brothers who love the Lord who struggle in this area. Until they get the help they need and allow the Lord to do a work in them in this area, I wouldn't go forward.)

7. Grounded in the word

Is this brother invested in knowing his word? Does he study to show himself approved?(2 timothy 2:15) I'm not saying that he has to be a theologian and needs to exegete scripture perfectly lol but does he know the basics of our faith? Can he distinguish between truth and error? Can he discern false doctrine and is able to refute it? As Christian women, we should want a man who can wash us in the word and point us to Christ. (Ephesians 5:26) Also be discerning because there are many men who have head knowledge but have no love for God or no desire to live out all the theology that they know. 

8. Disciple making

Does he have a heart for the lost? Is he seeking to disciple other brothers in the faith? Is he seeking to pour out his life for the glory of God and live out the great commission in his life? (Matthew 28:19-20)

9. Under sound leadership and accountability 

What church does he attend? Is he under a biblically sound Pastor? Sisters listen up this is important!!! How can you follow a man who's following behind false teachers? False doctrine is poisonous to our spiritual walk and can lead us astray.(2 timothy 3:13)  If you were to get engaged, would you want to get marriage counseling from a false teacher? It's important that he sits under a man of God who faithfully preaches the word and gives godly wisdom. Who are his friends? Godly men should have godly friends. If all of his friends are worldly and carnal this is a indicator that he may be too! (Amos 3:3 Can two walk together unless they agree.) 

10. Vision

Does this brother has a plan? I'm sure he doesn't have it all together because we as women sure don't have it all together! He may not have the best job, best credit score, or best car but is he content with staying there? Is he in college, trying to get a better job, being financially responsible or making moves to where he can provide for you if you were to marry? (1 Timothy 5:8) Do you trust his vision and can you see yourself building and growing with him? (Please don't think I'm insinuating getting with a lazy man who has absolutely nothing to bring to the table.)

I hope this blog could be of some encouragement and clarification for my sisters. I think we should also use this blog to examine ourselves. We can't expect these qualities in a godly man if we're not in Christ ourselves and prayerfully working on these areas. Please check out my blog worldy vs godly women. Worldly Vs godly women. Nonetheless, we must be patient and gracious as we are all being sanctified and growing in the Lord. However, if a guy's fruit shows that he doesn't know the Lord sisters PLEASE RUN from unequally yoked relationships. You can't change him, only the Lord can! Above everything else, pray for wisdom and that God's will be done! Please email me if you have questions Love you all!

Tuesday, August 23, 2016

Living for Christ in college!

                      Living for Christ in college

Throughout the years, many sisters in college have reached out to me sharing the struggles of trying to live for Christ while in college. College is a place where your faith will be tested. You're no longer under your parent's supervision. You no longer are told to go to church. Your'e free to make your own decisions. Though it may be hard to live for Christ in college, it's not impossible. Christ needs young women who will be set apart and stand on His word, show His love, be unashamed of His gospel and a be a light on college campuses across the world. This blog is to encourage my sisters that you can live for Christ in college!

1. Don't believe lies

For many believers, college can be a hard time. The enemy and your peers will make you feel like your'e missing out. Everyone else is out partying, getting drunk, high, dating and sleeping around while your'e trying to live for Christ. You may find yourself feeling lonely, isolated, and ostracized. People may even think you're weird or lame because you don't partake in the same activities as everyone else. You may even face persecution for your faith. Remember, you are not of this world. One of my favorite quotes, "I rather be an outcast now than get cast out later!" The narrow way isn't popular, but it's worth it. Nothing can compare to the joy and peace that comes from a life that is obedient and fully surrender to Christ. Take it from someone who rebelled against God and partied their life away in college. (Read my  My testimony) Don't believe the lies sis. Life in the world looks glamorous, but it's all a visage. The partying, drugs, sex, and relationships cannot fill that void that you have. We desperately need Christ!

2. Surround yourself with Godly friends

1 Corinthians 15:33 Do not be deceived,"Bad company corrupts good morals."
Women of God should be loving, friendly, welcoming and cordial to everyone. However, we must be very selective of our close friends. It's so imperative that we surround ourselves with sisters who love and fear the Lord. We can't afford to have friends who are encouraging us to sin against God and do things that are contrary to His word. Imagine you trying to live for Christ but you have friends who are full of drama and constantly pressuring you to hook up with guys and attend parties. We need Godly friends who we can confess our sins to, be accountable to, sharpen us, correct us when we're wrong, pray with us when we're struggling, tell us the truth in love and who will ultimately push us closer to Christ!

3.Don't compromise

2 Timothy 2:22 Flee the evil desires of youth and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, along with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart.

Sis, don't compromise your Godly standards to fit in. Don't dim your light to get the approval of people. Don't compromise and date a guy who doesn't love Christ. I know the struggle is real, it seems like everyone has a bae but you..but sis, you can't change him! This guy will lead you away from Christ and you'll end up heartbroken. Flee sin and cling to Christ. Protect your purity. Guard your heart. Don't flirt with sin or think you can handle it. We can only do this by the power of the Holy Spirit, not human effort. So many times we think we are stronger that what we are. Trust me we are not. We can't handle it. No matter how long you've been saved. No matter how long you've been celibate. No matter how many scriptures you know. You can't handle it! The flesh is weak. Don't put yourself in compromising situations where you can fall in sin.  Proverbs 6:27 Can a man take fire in his bosom And his clothes not be burned?

We must be wise ladies. I understand that we're not perfect but remember that we represent Christ. Some things may not necessarily be a sin, but is it wise? Don't lose your witness and don't allow your good to be evil spoken of. The streets are watching. Your peers won't take you serious if one minute your'e trying to witness to them about Christ, then the next minute your'e doing the same things that they're doing. Be wise!

Romans 14:16 So do not let what you regard as good be spoken of as evil.
1 Corinthians 10;23 All things are lawful,” but not all things are helpful. “All things are lawful,” but not all things build up.

4. Stay grounded in the word

Psalm 119:11 I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you.

Being in our word as believers isn't an option. We cannot be self-sufficient and think we can coexist apart from Christ. We must cling to Him tightly and feast upon His word. We must set aside a time to study the word and pray. The word strengthens us, comforts us, transforms us, convicts us and gives us the power to overcome sin. Let's be honest, no one is going to "feel" like reading their word all the time. We have to be real and ask God to give us the desire. We must deny our flesh and not allow for our feelings to control us.

5. Use your time wisely

Sis, use your time wisely because we can never get time back. Don't look back on your college years and realize that you wasted time. Be fruitful and leverage your time. Your college campus is a mission field. There are so many people from all walks of life who don't know Christ. Pray for opportunities to share the gospel and make disciples. Join a campus ministry or even start one! (If you're interested in starting a High heels and High standards campus ministry email me!:-) Serve your community, volunteer, mentor, join clubs, or do an internship. Most importantly, find a solid bible teaching church where you can be edified and grow. It is also great to have an older sister at church who can mentor you and pour into you!

6. Have fun!

Ecclesiastes 8:15 So I commend the enjoyment of life, because there is nothing better for a person under the sun than to eat and drink and be glad. Then joy will accompany them in their toil all the days of the life God has given them under the sun.

Sis make the most of your time in college!  Just because your'e a Christian doesn't mean you have to be stiff and boring. Connect with other young Christians in your area. Evangelize. Make disciples. Travel. Live. Think outside the box. Understand that in your walk with Christ there will be victories and there will be failings. Sometimes you'll be on the mountain tops and other times you'll be in the valley. No matter what season you find yourself in, keep your eyes on Christ because He is faithful. If you fall or make unwise decisions learn from them. Don't sink in condemnation and run back to the world. Repent and run back to the arms of your loving Father! 

I hope that this blog can encourage my sisters who are in high school or college. Please share with other ladies that you know. Though it may be hard, it's not impossible to live for Christ in college. Sis, if you have gotten out of the race it's time to get back in. Remember your purpose while at college. Remember you are there to glorify God, to be a light and get an education. Don't lose focus. Love you sis stay encouraged!

Thursday, February 18, 2016

What is a Christian?

What is a Christian?

There's an attack on what it means biblically to be a Christian. All over our country we have people professing to be Christian but their life, what they teach, and what they stand for grossly contradicts scripture. A false Christianity is so prevalent in our country because it costs nothing and allows people to live how they want and "go to Heaven!" The standard has been lowered and tainted of what a Christian is. Just because someone has a title, is apart of a denomination, a faithful church goer, or talks about Jesus doesn't make them a Christian. It's so imperative that we're letting the bible define what a Christian is..not opinions, feelings, or our culture. I'm so passionate about this topic because I was in church all of my life thinking I was a Christian but was lost as ever. My heart is to see people truly saved and on fire for God because at the end of our lives this is the ONLY thing that will matter!!

1. A Christian has been born again

John 3:3 Jesus answered him, “Truly, truly, I say to you, unless one is born again he cannot see the kingdom of God.”
John :12-13 But as many as received Him, to them He gave the right to become children of God, even to those who believe in His name, who were born, not of blood nor of the will of the flesh nor of the will of man, but of God.

Going to church, paying tithes, getting baptized, repeating a prayer doesn't make us a Christian. Jesus said that we MUST be born again. We were born in sin and separated from God. In order to be reconciled to God we must be born again. To be born again is a spiritual rebirth from Heaven. In our natural state before Christ, we are dead spiritually and hostile to the things of God.( Ephesians 2:1, Colossians 2:13) When a person repents of their sins and place their trust in Christ, God regenerates them and makes them alive spiritually. Salvation is all a work of God, not human effort.  (John 3:8 The wind blows where it wishes, and you hear its sound, but you do not know where it comes from or where it goes. So it is with everyone who is born of the Spirit.) Salvation is a supernatural work of God where God gives a person His nature, new desires, affections, loves, and passions. This  covenant was prophesied in the old testaments.{ Ezekiel 36:26–27) Without the evidence of being born again, no person should have any assurance that they are saved or in right standing with God!

2. A Christian is saved by grace

Ephesians 2:8 For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast.

It's absolutely nothing that we can do to make ourselves right with God. Good deeds and changing our behavior doesn't make us right with God. Salvation is all of grace. We are saved by grace through faith in Christ alone. Glory to God!

3. A Christian believe God's word

2 Timothy 3:16 All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness.

Christianity isn't a buffet where we  pick and choose what we want to believe. God defines the terms and conditions as stated in His word, not us! When we are born again, we are given the mind of Christ. Our worldview must be shaped by God's word and not by our culture, opinions, or feelings. A Christian believes God's word and seeks to conform their life to it. I'm flabbergasted to hear self-proclaimed leaders in the church denounce orthodox beliefs and now take on liberal views. There's no way that anyone can be a child of God, yet support practices and lifestyles that God's word deem as sin. God's word defines what's right and wrong, not our culture. We are to change our lives to accommodate God's word, not change God's word to accommodate our lives!

4. A Christian's life will be radically transformed by the power of God

2 Corinthians 5:17 Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.

It is the Holy Spirit at work in a believer that changes them and conforms them to the image of Christ. Through the power of the Holy Spirit, we are able to obey God and live holy. The more we renew our mind in God's word, we are transformed. God's whole purpose of salvation is to change us to look like Christ and to get the glory out of our life. Through trials and circumstances God will prune and change us. Sanctification is a life-long process but the moment a person is born again, they are made alive spiritually and given the very nature of God. To say that a person can be a Christian and never grow, change, and live in a continual state of rebellion against God contradicts everything Christ stood for. Every person who encountered Christ in the bible, their life was radically transformed!

5. A Christian obeys God

John 15:14 You are my friends if you do what I command you.
1 John 2:4 Whoever says “I know him” but does not keep his commandments is a liar, and the truth is not in him.

Christianity isn't following a list of rules or trying to be a good person. When a person has been born of God they are given new desires. They no longer will be comfortable or find pleasure in sin like they did when they were lost. A Christian now loves God,seeks to please Him, and it's not burdensome to obey Him(1 john 5:3) Does this mean that a Christian will be perfect. Absolutely not! (1 John 1:8 If we say we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.) A Christian will not be perfect..but their direction will be different. Their heart and affections will be set on living for God and no longer pursuing a life of sin. If a Christian fails or sin, they will not twist scriptures to justify it, boast in it, or make excuses to continue in sin..they will be broken, grieved and led to repentance.

6.A Christian will be hated by the world

John 15:18-19 If the world hates you, know that it has hated me before it hated you. If you were of the world, the world would love you as its own; but because you are not of the world, but I chose you out of the world, therefore the world hates you.

If you're going to be a faithful Christian in a fallen world, you must accept that the world will hate you and you must love those who do. We can't expect the same world that hated and killed our Savior to love and accept us. The world will call you judgmental, harsh, self-righteous, and a bigot for standing on God's word. The world hates Christians because darkness hates the light(John 3:19-21), they hate God's truth(Galatians 4:16), because we expose sin(john 7:7), because satan has blinded the world(2 Corinthians 4:4), and they hate the gospel(1 Corinthians 1:18) The kingdom of God and the world are opposed to each other. We can't try to please both God and the world, you will love one and hate the other. We're called to love the world and engage them with the gospel, but God has called us to separate from the world. (2 Corinthians 6:17) To be a friend of the world is to be an enemy of God. (James 4:4)

7. A Christian will bear the fruit of Christ

Matthew 7:17-20 So, every healthy tree bears good fruit, but the diseased tree bears bad fruit. A healthy tree cannot bear bad fruit, nor can a diseased tree bear good fruit.  Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. Thus you will recognize them by their fruits.

Salvation is a free gift given. We are saved by grace through faith..but our fruit show if our faith is genuine. You will know a person by what flows our of their life. If a person belongs to God, it will reflect in their life.

8. A Christian perseveres to the end

Matthew 24:13 But the one who endures to the end will be saved.

Salvation isn't verified by a past act, but our present fruitfulness. I meet many people who say they "use to be a Christian" or use to be on fire for a season but are now back in the world. I would encourage that person to examine themselves to see if they where truly born again (2 Corinthians 13:5). A person who is running a race doesn't finish until he completes the race. The Christian life is a race and those who endure to the end will be saved. Throughout the Christian life, there will be trials, hardships, and suffering but we overcome by our faith in Christ.  Peter 1:8-9 Though you have not seen him, you love him. Though you do not now see him, you believe in him and rejoice with joy that is inexpressible and filled with glory, receiving the end of your faith, even the salvation of your souls.

If you have read this blog and you're unsure or have doubts if you have been born again, please email me. I would love to talk to you and point you to Christ. Don't allow pride or fear keep you from the most important thing in life! 

Saturday, October 3, 2015

Christianity,Empire & Scandal

                     Christianity, Empire & Scandal

This week, a co-worker asked me did I see the new episode of Empire. Before I could answer, someone said, "She's not into stuff like that!" I want to make it clear that I'm not better than anyone because I don't watch these shows. When God first saved me, I battled giving up my favorite reality shows: Single Ladies, Real Housewives of Atlanta, and Bad Girls Club. I tried to make excuses and convince myself that it was just a show and no big deal. The Holy Spirit would convict me every time, and I would feel no peace afterwards. The Holy Spirit was grieved with me feeding my flesh and filling my mind with the filth of this world.  Finally I said enough Lord, I give it to you.  (Ephesians 4:30 And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption.)

In the last year, I've heard much talk of popular shows like Empire and Scandal. For those who are not familiar with Empire or Scandal, these shows are very popular. People even get together to have Empire and Scandal watching parties. These shows glorify and promote fornication, homosexuality, abortion, adultery, greed, lust of the flesh, the pride of life..and everything that Jesus warns us to stay away from. The fastest way to promote sin and make it acceptable is through entertainment. I'm sure shows like Empire and Scandal may have a good story line, but I find it hypocritical as a believer to preach against sin but then watch shows that glorify it. These shows are designed to desensitize us to sin and make it normal. In the 70s-80s we had shows like The Cosby Show, Family Matters, Brady Bunch that promoted family, marriage, morals and we have shows that promote sin and our culture reflects it!

 PAUSE.. Some of you may be thinking, "Umm Brittany I like your other posts but I'm not giving up my shows. You're being legalistic and holier than thou!" It's not about being a legalist, but we can't use our freedom in Christ as an excuse to gratify our flesh. We have to wonder why our hearts are far from God, why we have no desire to pray & share the gospel, and no passion for Christ because we are being entertained by the very things He hates and died for.  No matter how long we've been saved, we can't "handle" certain things. We should pursue holiness and godliness at all costs. 

This isn't just about Empire & Scandal. It's about what we watch, listen to, and entertain in general. These shows promote the very sins that put our loving savior on the cross.  Many times we don't understand and think God doesn't wants us to have fun or watch anything. No, God loves us and wants us to stay away from evil and anything that will take our heart away from Him. He knows how detrimental these things are to our spiritual life. Believers, we have to guard our heart and be wise. We should seek to honor God in what we listen to and watch. In my own walk, I notice when I listen to or watch certain things..afterwards I have no desire to read my word or pray. This stuff feeds our flesh, unknowingly. We shouldn't ask is this a sin, or that a sin. We should ask is this pushing us closer to God and would God be pleased with it. ( 1 Corinthians 10:23 All things are lawful, but not all things are profitable. All things are lawful, but not all things edify.)

This post wasn't to condemn any believers for watching these shows, but to bring awareness and expose the cunning tactics of the enemy. (Ephesians 5:11 Take no part in the unfruitful works of darkness, but instead expose them.) As we grow in God, we begin to love what He loves and hate what He hates..including our own sin. Some may think I'm being "too deep" but for those who have been convicted by watching these shows this is for you!:-)

Proverbs 4:23 Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.
         Psalms 101:3 I will set nothing wicked before my eyes;
I hate the work of those who fall away;it shall not cling to me.

Saturday, January 31, 2015

Worldly Women Vs Godly Women

Worldly Women Vs Godly Women

I made a blog some months ago about Godly vs Worldly men! ( All of the ladies were like, "Yes,you better tell it Brittany. A man needs to be this and that!"  Well, ladies this blog is for us! This blog is not to bash women in the world and esteem Godly women. It's ONLY because of Christ that a Godly woman is able to be this way nothing of her own. Godly women have not arrived and are not perfect but there should be a CLEAR distinction of who we are and who we belong to. I know that it's not an overnight process. However, the more we grow in Christ the more we look like Him and less like the world. We should be actively changing, growing into the women God called us to be and not content in how we were in the world.

 I want to make this very clear that just because a woman is a Minister, Pastor's daughter, Pastor's wife, serve in church, apart of a Christian organization, is moral, or posts about God doesn't make us a woman of God! There are many women in the church with the title as a 'Godly woman', but look no different from women in the world besides church attendance and morality. A true woman of God has been born again and seeks to please God in everything, repentant, and lives on the narrow path!

Spiritual life

A woman in the world can be a faithful church goer, serve in church, moral, apart of a Christian organization, sweet and talk about God but she is not deeply rooted in Christ and has no passion for God or lost souls. She may be celibate, serve in church, or quote scriptures but there is no true love for God or His word.  She may pray to God when she needs something or out of obligation but she doesn't have a deep prayer life. You will see many worldly women talking about God one minute, then turning up, having sex and cursing the next. She is very double-minded. She gets bored talking about God and the gospel, she rather talk about other things. She is not broken over her sin, as long as she looks moral before others she is okay. She seeks to please herself and look good before others above everything else. In church and on social media she may be one way, but when you get her alone she's a completely different person. She may compromise on anything if she likes you enough and if you tell her what she wants to hear.

Christ is a Godly's woman life. Everything that she does stems from her relationship with Christ. She isn't overly-religious or churchy, her love for God is natural flowing and not forced. God's word is the standard by which she seeks to live her life. The Godly woman communes with God and has an intimate relationship with the Lord. She depends on Him and feasts upon His word. She not only reads the word, she seeks to keep it.  She is  passionate about Christ and her heart's desire is to share the gospel and make disciples. She is conscious and sensitive of all of all the areas in her life that are unlike God and prays and depend on God to help her in the areas that she falls short in. She seeks to please God above everything else. She is deeply rooted in the word of God (if she's a new believer she's growing to know who God is). She seeks to be the same in church, on social media, in public and in private.


Worldly women often times pride themselves off their looks and achievements. They boast about their accolades, followers, title, career, and how much money they make. It's all about them. She will put her career and pleasures before her husband and family. She only cares about her kid's dressing nice, their extra-curricular activities and their education.. she isn't concerned with their spiritual well-being. She looks up to and idolize celebrities who are "successful" in the world. She strives to be the next house wife,  Beyonce, Oprah,  and tries to "keep up with the Kardashians" because she is so mesmerized with their glamorous & lavish life, expensive bags, and money.

A Godly woman may have alot to boast in but she boasts in Christ alone. She knows that apart from Him she's nothing. She know that her achievements, degrees, career, minus Christ is vain and holds no eternal value. A godly woman doesn't strive to be "successful" by the world's standards, she strives to be successful according to God's standards which is by obedience and conformity to His will. God and her family comes before anything. She's not trying to "keep up with the Jones" she does what is best for her household because her main goal is to raise her kids in the fear and ammunition of the Lord. She cares about her children's education but more than anything she cares about them living for God and doing what God called them to do. She strives to be like older Christian women and be a Proverbs 31 woman. She is not trying to be like celebrities because she knows the things that they stand for, the way that they live, and what they promote contradicts God's word.


Worldly women are more than likely attracted to carnal aspects of a man. How they look, dress, how much money they make, their degrees, accolades, social status, will they make cute kids, how fly his car is, how good he is in bed, how he makes her feel and temporal things that have no eternal value.

I won't say that a Godly woman won't be attracted to the exterior. Before we know anything about a man, we only see how they look. Saved or not, we all want to be attracted to our husband! A Godly woman will check out how he looks but more than anything she will be attracted to who he is spiritually. She is concerned about his prayer life, can he lead her, protect her, does he have a vision, hear clearly from the Lord,  can he teach her the word, be a good example for her (future) children, and how he interacts with other women? She is attracted to his leadership, self control, his submission to Christ no matter what the cost, his devotion to fervent prayer, and his heart to reach people with the gospel of Christ.


A worldly woman will give out her number, flirt, or date any guy who she finds attractive, has something to offer her, or just to have a good ol' time. She has no problem with having sex before marriage, spending the night with you, taking vacations with you, or moving in with you before you're her husband. She does whatever makes her happy and  what's right in her eyes. There are some worldly women who do see a problem with having sex before marriage, but it's not because they truly fear God and want to please Him. It centers around them and their selfish desires.

A woman of God knows that her time is precious. Although she may struggle with contentment in singleness and desire attention from the opposite sex, she depends on God to fill her void. She knows that her time is precious and she  Her standards are based on God's word, not based upon what she think is right.  Although though she may be vulnerable, tempted, and weak at times, she will seek to honor God with her body because she desires to please Him. I won't say that a Godly woman can't fall into sexual sin and make mistakes in their area (I know some who have but they repented and are walking in purity again)  but she will be convicted unto repentance, uncomfortable and grieved about sinning against God. She will not use scriptures to justify why she can sleep with her boyfriend.


Worldly women screech at the word submission. Many have the mindset that,"I'm independent. I got my own, I'm not submitting to no man this ain't the 1950's!"  She doesn't practice prudence or discretion, she pops off at the mouth.(Proverbs 11:22 Like a gold ring in a pig's snout is a beautiful woman without discretion). She is very quarrelsome and when she's having problems with her husband, she will nag him to death, complain, and run and tell all of her friends what's going in. (Proverbs 25:24) She doesn't have a relationship with Christ, so she expects her husband to fulfill her every need and desire. She puts unrealistic expectations on him that only Christ can fill. She has this view of marriage to fill her void and make her happy.

Godly women whether single or married knows and embraces her God given role. She embraces her role of being a help meet and submitting to her husband. (Colossians 3:18) She knows God's design and portrait of a Godly marriage. She understands that her husband can't fulfill her every need, want, and desire only Christ can. When things are going wrong, although she is agitated she is careful with her words and speaks with wisdom. (Proverbs 31:26) She is very discreet, when they're having problems and she doesn't nag him or run to her friends, she goes to the Lord and pray because she know prayer changes things!  She knows that marriage is the picture between Christ and his church, she doesn't go to marriage looking to fill a void she knows that it will make her holy.


You will see the acts of the flesh in a worldly's woman life. (Galatians 5:19-21 The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery;  idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions, and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.) A worldly woman's  love is conditional, based on how others treat her. She doesn't forgive easily, she constantly bring up everything and remind you of what you've done in the past. She harbors hurt,anger, and bitterness. She's passionate about worldly success, the temporal things of the world. She can be controlling, unsubmissive to God, leadership, and authority.

You will see the fruits of the spirit manifested a woman of God's life.(Galatians 5:22-23 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.) Her love for others is unconditional, no matter how they treat her because she knows the author of love, God. She builds up people and tears down the lies of the enemy. She is devoted to purity and chastity, able to forgive and freely extend mercy and grace, passionate about Christ, her words are sincere, she's selfless, sensitivity to God’s Word and to His Spirit, sensitive to the sin in her life, able to speak the truth in love, submissive  to Christ, leadership, and authority.


You want to know who a woman is?? Look at her friends, they are a reflection of her!( Amos 3:3 Can two walk together, except they agree) A worldly woman may have friends who they've been down for years. They may be loyal to each other and have a great friendship but they are not pushing each other closer to God. I personally called alot of my friendships in the world "sinships" we had nothing in common but sin. We never talked about anything deep, never went through anything..we just partied, gossiped, and sinned together!

A godly woman may not have a lot of friends, but the friends that she do have will be believers who keep her accountable and push her closer to Christ. They have a deep intimate bond that is founded upon Christ and His word. They will laugh, cry, pray, sharpen one another(Proverbs 27:17) and confess their sins to one another (James 5:16.) They are committed to growing together and serving the Lord.

I pray after reading this, that many of us men and women have a new perspective of what a woman of God is. I want to state again, that it's ONLY because of the Holy spirit convicting us, working in us, changing us, and teaching us that equips us to be women of God. This blog challenged me also, because I am striving to be the woman that God created me to. After reading this blog and you may realize..
  • You thought you were this Godly woman the whole time but you realize that you may be worldly: Please email me so that I can share with you God's plan of salvation (
  • You are saved but you still have a lot of worldliness in you: Ask God to change YOU to become a godly woman who can deeply and richly bless a godly man one day.  Let go of worldly friends, practices, shows or whatever else is taking your heart away from God.
  • You are a Godly man and realize that you've been going for worldly woman even though they're in church. It's easy to get caught up in the exterior, because she's pretty, sweet, and kind. Truly seek the Lord , fast, and pray and don't compromise!
  • If you are a Godly woman and seek to be the woman God designed you to be! Continue digging deep in the word, prayer,and staying sensitive to the Holy Spirit. Allow His spirit to sanctify you and change you from the inside out!

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