"I love Jesus but I cuss a little"

There is a very popular slogan that says,"I love Jesus but I cuss a little!" I have seen many people wearing the shirt and boasting in loving Jesus and using profanity. Let's discuss profanity from a biblical perspective. Does a 4 letter word really have meaning? Do Christians have the freedom in Christ to curse? Does God care about our speech? Is profanity clearly explicit in scripture as something that should be avoided by believers?


"The Holy Spirit living inside of you should impact the words that come out of you."


1. Honor Christ with your speech

Ephesians 4:29 Let no corrupt talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.

A Christian is someone who has been born again and made a new creation in Christ. They have died to their old life and now live a new life by the power of the Holy Spirit. Many of us once indulged in profanity and obscene language in the world. Now that we're in Christ we're called to honor God with our life, even down to our speech. Christians will get annoyed, angry, and impatient at times but we have to learn how to express ourselves in a manner that brings honor and glory to the Lord. We aren't loving God or our neighbors well if we use words to tear others down. We are exhorted to use words that encourage, edify, and bring grace. We must be reverent in our speech, being reminded that we will give an account to God on judgment day for every word that we speak. Matthew 12:36

2. Our speech matters to our witness

Colossians 4:5 Walk in wisdom toward outsiders, making the best use of the time.

As Christians, we are called to be ambassadors for Christ. We are representatives of Him to the unbelieving world. Our speech and the way that we live has a large impact on the effectiveness of our message. We must be consistent over time in order to clearly present the message of the gospel. The moment someone finds out that you're a Christian, you better believe that they are watching you! Your co-workers, peers, and family members are watching to see if you live out the message that you proclaim. We shouldn't be consumed with how the world views us, but we should desire to be a good witness to them. The world will not take us serious if we're trying to preach to them one day, then the next day we're using profanity or cursing someone out! James 3:10 From the same mouth come blessing and cursing. My brothers, these things ought not to be so. 

3. Our words reveal what's in our heart

Matthew 12:34 Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks 

I've repeatedly heard the statement,"It doesn't matter that I curse because God knows my heart." Scripture reveals to us that our speech reveals what's inside of our heart. What's in our heart comes out in the way that we speak and live. Words are the revelation of our true inner condition. Are our words evidence of a regenerate heart that has been transformed by God? Or evidence of an unregenerate heart that is dead in sin? Matthew 15:18-19 But what comes out of the mouth proceeds from the heart, and this defiles a person. For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false witness, and slander. We must also be diligent in guarding what we watch, read, and listen to. What we fill our heart with will eventually come out. Proverbs 4:23 Above all else, guard your heart for everything you do flows from it.  


4. Our greatest aim should be holiness

1 Peter 1:16 For it is written,"Be holy for I am holy"

Regardless if we're convinced if cursing is sin or not, we have to ask ourselves is using profanity pursuing holiness? Is it being set-apart from the world? Does it bring glory to God? If we're being honest we know that the answer is no! God's greatest desire in saving us is to see us holy and conformed to the image of Christ. 2 Timothy 1:9 We're not called to be cool or culturally relevant, we're called to be holy. We will never win the world by acting like the world. We can be all things to all people without compromising who we are in Christ. For those of us who justify cursing by saying that we have freedom in Christ. Our freedom in Christ should never be used at the expense of indulging in the flesh or being a stumbling block to others. Galatians 5:13 For you were called to freedom brothers. Only do not use your freedom as am opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another. Sanctification is a life long process and we will grow at different rates, but our greatest desire should be holiness even down to the words that we use!

5. We must purify ourselves 

James 4:8 Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you. Cleanse you hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded

Even though we have been born again, we still have a flesh that we must battle. Christians will not be perfect but there is a huge difference in intentionally using profanity with no conviction or desire to change vs cursing in a moment of anger, then feeling godly sorrow and repenting. We have to also be cautious of our inward thoughts. There may be times when we may not verbally curse but we think it in our minds. Regardless, we must continually allow the Lord to purify our hearts and minds and transform us through the reading of the word. Romans 12:2. Please don't believe that you can't overcome cursing, you can! If we are in Christ, we have power through the Holy Spirit to overcome sin. One of the fruits of the spirit is self-control. This means that we can control what comes out of our mouth through the power of the Holy Spirit. We have to take things day by day and be prayerful and intentional about our words! 


This blog was not written with the intention to condemn or belittle anyone who uses profanity, but to encourage all believers to honor the Lord in our speech. We all have different struggles and if one of our struggles is profanity, let us humbly come to our Lord in confession and repentance. He is so merciful, gracious, and faithful to help us in our struggles and weakness. If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us of our sins and cleanse us of all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9. Saints, let's continue to be the light in a dark world and use our words to edify others and glorify the Lord in all that we do. Grace and Peace! 💕

Behavior modification vs God's transformation

When I was in the world, there were many times when I tried to "get myself together." I tried to stop clubbing, stop cursing, and stop having sex. I tried to start going to church more, watching sermons, and reading my bible. Sadly, it never lasted and I was right back to my old life. I tried to change my behavior when the problem was my sinful heart. Praise God in 2012, the Lord miraculously saved me and radically transformed my life. I've been very vocal about faith and throughout the years and people who knew me in the world would always ask me how did I change my life around. Many of us
 think that Christianity is simply changed behavior, morality, steps, and following formulas. I pray that this blog shatters the false notion of behavior modification and brings light to the freedom, supernatural work of God, and life transformation of the gospel of Jesus Christ!

"Jesus didn't come into the world to make bad men good. He came into the world to make dead men alive" -Leonard Ravenhill

                             The Problem

1  1.  Sinful by nature

Because of the fall of mankind in Genesis 3, we are all born into sin. Romans 5:12 Therefore, just as sin came into the world through one man, and death through sin, and so death spread to all men because all sinned. It's not that there comes a moment in our life when we decide to welcome sin into our heart. Sin is an uninvited inheritance from birth. {Psalm 51:5 Behold, I was shapen in iniquity; and in sin did my mother conceive me.} No one has to teach a child to lie or be selfish; rather, sinful behavior comes naturally. Because of our sin nature we are rebellious, hostile,  at enmity with God, and by nature children of wrath.(Romans 8:7, Ephesians 2:3).

2. The root is our heart

The problem is the human heart. Jeremiah 17:9  The heart is deceitful above all things, And desperately wicked; Who can know it? Our lifestyle is a reflection of what's in our heart. So no matter how much we try to change our behavior, our heart remains the same. Can you imagine having problems with your car and you take it to a mechanic? The mechanic only washes your car and never looks at the engine to see what's wrong. Sure, the car looks good on the outside but the problem is on the inside. This is the same with us! If we want to deal with sin, we must aim at the right target. That target is not merely bad behavior but the sinful desires of the heart that produce the behavior. This is the very reason why Jess rebuked the Pharisees. They focused on the outside but ignored the inside. Matthew 23:25-26 Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you clean the outside of the cup and the plate, but inside they are full of greed and self-indulgence. You blind Pharisee! First clean the inside of the cup and the plate, that the outside also may be clean.

 3. Better morals and Better behavior isn’t the solution

The solution to the immorality of our culture isn't better morality. The solution to the sin in our own lives isn't changed behavior. It is the life transforming truth of the gospel. For many of us, we know that our life isn't pleasing to God. Our natural instinct is to try to change our behavior. This type of living only leads to bondage, frustration and eventually returning back to our old life. It breaks my heart that there are many people who are caught up in churches and ministries that teach behavior modification, formulas, and legalism instead of the gospel. Many of these people are frustrated feeling like they can never "measure up" to the Christian standard because they're seeking to change their behavior without first being transformed by Christ. For my moral friend who may feel like this doesn't apply to you because you are already a "good" person. If we're trusting in our good behavior and good works rather than Christ, we fall in the same category. No matter how many good things we are doing in our strength, those who are in the flesh and are not born again cannot please God. Romans 8:8 Those who are in the flesh cannot please God. 

                   The Solution

         1.The gospel 

God is holy, perfect, just and no sin can dwell in His presence(Psalm 5:4, Habakkuk 1:13). Because of our sin, we stand under God's wrath and deserve judgment. Out of God's grace, love, mercy and kindness He had a plan to send the Lord Jesus Christ in the world to become the sacrifice for our sin.(1 John 2:2, Matthew 1:21, Hebrews 9:12). For our sake he made him to be sin who knew no sin, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God.  2 Corinthians 5:21. We are saved by grace through faith in Christ alone(Ephesians 2:8-9). Not by changing our behavior, trying to be a good person, or by following rules. God has promised for those who repent and believe on Christ alone, they will be justified, forgiven, reconciled, adopted, and have eternal life.  Romans 6:23 For the wages of sin is death but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus.  

 2. New birth

In our first birth we are born into sin, this is why Jesus says that we must be born again. Jesus answered him, “Truly, truly, I say to you, unless one is born again he cannot see the kingdom of God.”John 3:3. The new birth is a spiritual awakening that takes us out of a state of spiritual death into a state of spiritual life. In the new birth God gives us a new heart, new desires, new affections, and seals us with His Holy Spirit. Ezekiel 36:26 I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh. The new birth is literally the greatest miracle that can ever happen. God takes sinful, rebellious, hostile people who were once His enemies and makes us His children. Romans 5:10 For if while we were enemies we were reconciled to God by death of his Son, much more new that we are reconciled, shall we be saved by His life.  There is no such thing as a boring testimony. If the Lord has saved you it is a miracle and we ought to praise God for it!! 

  3. Transformation

God doesn’t save a person and allows them to live the same ol’ empty, sinful, and worldly life that they once did. He makes us a new creation. Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come. 2 Corinthians 5:17.  If God's seed abides in us we WILL bear His fruit. (John 15, 1 John 3:9) If God has changed our heart and made us a new creation, it will be evident. What happens on the inside will manifest on the outside. I’m not talking about sinless perfection but a new direction. Imagine you driving somewhere only to find out that you’re going the wrong way. You would have to completely make a u-turn to get to your destination. This is the same with the Christian life, God completely changes the direction of our life because we now have a new destination. 

Now, I don't want anyone to think I'm insinuating that we will become perfect once we become Christians. When God saves us, He doesn't completely eradicate our sinful nature(1 John 1:8). Christians can fail and give in to the flesh but they will be broken over sin and repent. We still have a flesh that we must die to and wage war with daily(Luke 9:23, Romans 8:13). This is why we must continue to renew our mind in God's word so that we will be transformed(Romans 12:2).  Praise God that we have the Holy Spirit and the grace of God. Titus 2:11-15  For the grace of God has appeared that offers salvation to all people. It teaches us to say “No” to ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright and godly lives in this present age.

We don't need changed behavior, we need a changed heart. Only the God who created us has the power to change our sinful heart. My dear sisters and brothers, I plead with you to give up all hope in trying to clean up your life up and trying to be a better person. This is also for the moralist and self-righteous. Those who think that they are righteous based off of their own good behavior. Nothing that we do will ever justify us or make us acceptable to a holy God. Christ has already lived the life that we could never live and died the death that we deserved so that we can be acceptable to God. Christ came to seek and save the lost. He is mighty to save. Come to Him now and seek Him while he may be found. He is our only hope in this dark world! Acts 4:12 And there is salvation is no one else. for there is no other name under Heaven given among men by which we must be saved.

10 marks of a biblical church

10 marks of a biblical hurch   

As believers, our local church plays such a pivotal role in our spiritual life. We must seek a local church where we can worship in spirit & truth, serve, pray, learn & apply the word, and fellowship with other like-minded believers.  We are in perilous times where many churches today are simply social clubs and look absolutely nothing like a biblical church. We must be prayerful, wise and discerning when choosing a local church. I pray that this blog can shed light on what to look for in a healthy church!

1. Sound teaching

The purpose of preaching is to deliver the truth of God's word. Does the Pastor teach sound doctrine that aligns with God's word?(Titus 2:1) Does the Pastor exegete scripture and preach the word in it's proper context? Does the Pastor use the pulpit to edify, correct, rebuke, encourage, and exalt Christ?(2 Timothy 4:2) Or does he use the pulpit for fleshly rants, jokes, manipulation, and to tickle ears?(2 Timothy 4:3) Are his sermons narcissistic and self-centered? Or does the message always point back to Christ? Does he preach feel good sermons that focuses only on what God can do for you? Are his messages very shallow and avoid any depth of the word? Or powerful convicting sermons that challenges you and causes you to examine yourself? Is Jesus preached in His rightful place as a sovereign Ruler and King who will one day judge the world? Or does he simply preach Jesus as a genie in the bottle and your free ticket to get prosperity, blessings, and your "best life now"? 

2. Biblical leadership

God has set out certain guidelines for His church. He has called for men to lead not only in the homes but also in the church(1 Timothy 3:1-13; Titus 1:6-9). It's not that women are inadequate or inferior, it's simply God's design and order! Women are gifted in so many ways and still can effectively minister, preach the gospel, disciple and serve in the body of Christ. Women just aren't called to Pastor or Co-pastor a church!(1 Timothy 2:11-14) If a church is willing to bend on church leadership, what else are they willing to bend on?

3. The Gospel is clearly and faithfully presented

A biblically sound church faithfully preaches the gospel. The gospel is the power of God unto salvation and the method of how God saves(Romans 1:16,Romans 10:14). Do they preach that we are separated from God because of sin and stand under God's wrath?(John 3:36,Ephesians 2:3) Do they teach that Christ came to save us from sin(Galatians 1:4) to reconcile us to God(2 Corinthians 5:18) forgive us(1 john 1:9) give us eternal life(Romans 6:23). Do they preach repentance and faith in Christ alone?(Matthew 4:17,Romans 2:4) Do they preach Christ as the only way to be saved?(John 14:6,Acts 4:12) Do they teach on God's judgment and hell for those who reject Christ?(Revelation 20:11-15, Romans 2:5) Are do they believe everyone will go to Heaven?

4. Clear understanding of conversion

The leaders of a biblically sound church have a clear understanding of how conversion works. It is our responsibility to preach the gospel but only God does the saving. Do they teach the necessity of the new birth?(John 3:3) Do they teach on how we are justified before God? (Romans 5:1) Do they try to coerce and emotionalize people at the end of their sermon to walk an aisle to repeat a "sinner's prayer" or to make a decision?  Do they tell people to "just believe" or "accept Jesus" without any explanation of repentance and saving faith? Or do they believe and teach that salvation is all a work of God and not human effort?(John 3:8) Do they teach that salvation is a free gift given? ( Ephesians 2:8,)  Or do they teach a works based salvation and other unbiblical methods for salvation? That we must try harder, perform better, change our externals and do enough "good works" to be saved.

5. Christ exalting

The whole purpose of church is to exalt and glorify the Lord Jesus Christ.(1 Corinthians 10:31) Our worship, preaching, and giving should always center around Christ.  Is Christ truly at the forefront of this church? Is the church modeled after scripture or the latest church growth model? Is the church seeker friendly where their whole aim is to entertain and get more members? Is the church more consumed with Christ or the Pastor's life? 

6. Leaders of integrity

Is the Pastor qualified to lead a church according to scripture? Does the Pastor have elders and deacons to hold him accountable? Has he been involved in church scandals? Is he known for infidelity? Pastors aren't perfect but they are held at a higher standard. You want to sit under a man of God who can shepherd you and model the Christian life before you! (Hebrews 13:7) A Pastor is called to live above reproach(1 timothy 3:2). He must be faithful and devoted to his wife.(Titus 1:6, 1,1 Timothy 3:12) humble, not arrogant (Titus 1:7). Gentle ,not quick-tempered (Titus 1:7; 1 Tim 3:3)Sober, not a drunkard (Titus 1:7; 1 Tim 3:3)  Upright in his financial dealings and not accused of pursuing money over the kingdom of God.(Titus 1:7; 1 Tim 3:3; 1 Peter 5:3) hospitable, self-controlled and holy (Titus 1:8; 1 Tim 3:2) and an example to the flock.(1 Peter 5:3)

7. Accountability & Church Discipline

At a biblically sound church, you have brothers and sisters in the Lord who truly love you and care about your soul. How do they handle when someone is in sin? Do they shun the person? Do they lovingly call you to repentance and seek to walk with you in restoration? Or do they say nothing? Saying nothing is saying something. We are condoning sin by our silence. If someone is caught in sin, they should restore that person gently while being careful not to fall into temptation. (Galatians 6:1) Do the leaders keep a watch for your soul?(Hebrews 13:17) Is unrepentant sin rampant and allowed in the church? Does the church practice church discipline? (Matthew 18:15-20, 1 Corinthians 5:1-13) Church discipline is the process of correcting sinful behavior among members for the purpose of protecting the church and restoring the member.

8. Evangelistic

We're not called to stay in the 4 walls of the church. We're not called to simply invite the lost to our church. Christ has given us a mandate to go into the world, proclaim the gospel, and make disciples. Is this church seeking to obey the great commission?(Matthew 28:18) Do the people at the church have a heart and burden for lost souls? Do the leaders encourage evangelism? Are they equipping members with apologetics and biblical truth to contend for the faith?(jude 1:3) Do they care about building God's church or only making a name for themselves and getting more members? 

9. Affiliations 

Who does the church affiliate with? Do they partner with other gospel saturated churches? Who does the Pastor follow and quote on social media?(YES DO YOUR HOMEWORK!:-)) Do the leaders affirm, partner and endorse false teachers? You ever heard the old saying,"Birds of a feather flock together." If a Pastor is associating with questionable or false teachers, this may be a clear indicator that they are also false(Amos 3:3)  Leaders are suppose to guard their sheep from wolves not lead them to the slaughter. We are called to avoid those who preach false doctrine not endorse them. (Romans 16:17 I appeal to your brothers to watch out for those who cause divisions and create obstacles contrary to the doctrine you have been taught; avoid them)

10. Repentance and reconciliation

There is no perfect church! It can be very hard and get messy walking closely with other people, even as believers. Can I get an amen?! We're all being sanctified and must remember to extend the same grace and mercy that we need. There is also an enemy who hates the church and seeks to divide God's people.  In the midst of everything do you see a body of broken believers who are repentant and broken over sin? Who wants to honor and serve the Lord? Who seeks reconciliation? Who walks in forgiveness?  Who confess their sins and pray for one another?

I encourage everyone who is looking for a local church to TAKE YOUR TIME and DO YOUR HOMEWORK!! Continue to visit the church, meet with a Pastor or an elder to ask questions that you may have, listen to their sermons, check out their social media pages, seek wise counsel, and continue to pray and seek the Lord. If you read this blog and you realize that you may be at a false church, I encourage you to find a biblically sound church. Please don't stay at a false church out of loyalty. Our primary loyalty and allegiance must be to God and His word. Please join me in praying for all of the godly Pastors who faithfully shepherd their local church. Also pray for believers who knowingly or unknowingly sit under false teachers. That the Lord may open their eyes to the deception and send them to a Christ exalting biblical church!
             
                                 

      

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What to look for in a godly man?

A godly marriage requires a godly man and a godly woman. What are the essential traits that a Christian woman should look for in a man she would consider dating or marrying?

1. He must be in Christ

It's not enough that he goes to church, has a title, serves in church, posts about God online, or is a Preacher's kid. It's not enough that he calls himself a Christian. He must be born again and made a new creation in Christ.(John 3:3, 2 Corinthians 5:17) Only when he is born again is He able to (by the power of the Holy Spirit) live a righteous and godly life. What is his conversion story? At what point in his life did he turn from sin and worldliness to serve Christ? Is there a consistent and clear pattern of godly living? Is he pursuing holiness? Or is he double-minded, worldly and in & out the church?  If a guy isn't in Christ no matter how much he performs and tries to "live right" through time you will see his true fruit. He must abide in Christ to bear His fruit.(John 15:4) Inspite of flaws, a man who is in Christ has a genuine love for the Lord and desires to honor Him with his life.

2. Leader

God has called for men to lead. A woman who is submitted to Christ and understands her role desires for a man to lead. C'mon somebody! As Christian women we want to feel secure and comfortable that a man can effectively lead. Is he passive with no backbone? Has he allowed women to control him in the past? Can you see yourself submitting to him? Can you see him leading you spiritually and setting an example to follow? (If he is younger or newer in the faith, he may not be very experienced in leading. It's unfair to compare him to seasoned men of God who have way more years of experience. However, he should prayerfully and actively work on developing leadership.)

3. Broken over sin 

Even as a man of God, he won't be perfect as we are all being sanctified!(1 John 1:8) The question is how does he respond when he falls short? Does he even care that he sinned against God? Does he justify and try to cover up his sin? Or is he broken, grieved, and repentant over sin? Our relationship with sin reveals our relationship with God. If a man loves God, he will also hate his sin. No matter how much he may claim to love God, if he's at peace in a sinful lifestyle it's a clear indicator that he may not know the Lord.(1 John 2:4) Believers should be responsible for our sin being reminded of the gospel, that if we confess our sins Christ is faithful and just to forgive us.(1 John 1:9) You will not see perfection but we should be broken, at war, and repentant over sin.(2 Corinthians 7:10)

“It is not the absence of sin but the grieving over it which distinguishes the child of God from empty professors” -A.w. Pink

4. Spirit-led

Is he very impulsive and makes decisions without prayer or godly counsel? Or does he pray and seek God's direction first? Does he try to make things happen on his own or does he allow God in His timing to open doors? In his pursuit of you is he spirit led? Or is he all over the place, up and down and inconsistent? Do you see more of the fruits of the spirit or deeds of the flesh in his life? (Galatians 5:16-25)

5. Humble and Teachable

How does he respond when he's confronted with sin? How does he respond when he's corrected? Does he ignore everyone and accuses them of being haters, jealous or judgmental? Even if it's not immediately can he come back and take accountability for his actions and humbly admit his mistakes? Can he apologize when he's wrong? Can he take criticism? Does he listen? Or is he a know it all who is prideful, unteachable, and arrogant?

6. Discipline and Self-control

When it comes to sexual purity how is he? Is he seeking to guard his eyes and heart from lust? Does he justify sex outside of marriage? How does he interact with other women? Does he have a reputation of sliding in different women dm? If a man lacks discipline in singleness, it will only manifest in marriage.  If a man cannot be faithful to God with his body in singleness how can you expect him to be faithful to you in marriage? Marriage doesn't cure lust, it only exposes it more! (I truly believe there are brothers who love the Lord who struggle in this area. Until they get the help they need and allow the Lord to do a work in them in this area, I wouldn't go forward.)

7. Grounded in the word

Is this brother invested in knowing his word? Does he study to show himself approved?(2 timothy 2:15) I'm not saying that he has to be a theologian and needs to exegete scripture perfectly lol but does he know the basics of our faith? Can he distinguish between truth and error? Can he discern false doctrine and is able to refute it? As Christian women, we should want a man who can wash us in the word and point us to Christ. (Ephesians 5:26) Also be discerning because there are many men who have head knowledge but have no love for God or no desire to live out all the theology that they know. 

8. Disciple making

Does he have a heart for the lost? Is he seeking to disciple other brothers in the faith? Is he seeking to pour out his life for the glory of God and live out the great commission in his life? (Matthew 28:19-20)

9. Under sound leadership and accountability 

What church does he attend? Is he under a biblically sound Pastor? Sisters listen up this is important!!! How can you follow a man who's following behind false teachers? False doctrine is poisonous to our spiritual walk and can lead us astray.(2 timothy 3:13)  If you were to get engaged, would you want to get marriage counseling from a false teacher? It's important that he sits under a man of God who faithfully preaches the word and gives godly wisdom. Who are his friends? Godly men should have godly friends. If all of his friends are worldly and carnal this is a indicator that he may be too! (Amos 3:3 Can two walk together unless they agree.) 

10. Vision

Does this brother has a plan? I'm sure he doesn't have it all together because we as women sure don't have it all together! He may not have the best job, best credit score, or best car but is he content with staying there? Is he in college, trying to get a better job, being financially responsible or making moves to where he can provide for you if you were to marry? (1 Timothy 5:8) Do you trust his vision and can you see yourself building and growing with him? (Please don't think I'm insinuating getting with a lazy man who has absolutely nothing to bring to the table.)

I hope this blog could be of some encouragement and clarification for my sisters. I think we should also use this blog to examine ourselves. We can't expect these qualities in a godly man if we're not in Christ ourselves and prayerfully working on these areas. Please check out my blog worldy vs godly women. Worldly Vs godly women. Nonetheless, we must be patient and gracious as we are all being sanctified and growing in the Lord. However, if a guy's fruit shows that he doesn't know the Lord sisters PLEASE RUN from unequally yoked relationships. You can't change him, only the Lord can! Above everything else, pray for wisdom and that God's will be done! Please email me if you have questions Highheelsstandards@gmail.com Love you all!

Living for Christ in college!

                      Living for Christ in college

Throughout the years, many sisters in college have reached out to me sharing the struggles of trying to live for Christ while in college. College is a place where your faith will be tested. You're no longer under your parent's supervision. You no longer are told to go to church. Your'e free to make your own decisions. Though it may be hard to live for Christ in college, it's not impossible. Christ needs young women who will be set apart and stand on His word, show His love, be unashamed of His gospel and a be a light on college campuses across the world. This blog is to encourage my sisters that you can live for Christ in college!

1. Don't believe lies

For many believers, college can be a hard time. The enemy and your peers will make you feel like your'e missing out. Everyone else is out partying, getting drunk, high, dating and sleeping around while your'e trying to live for Christ. You may find yourself feeling lonely, isolated, and ostracized. People may even think you're weird or lame because you don't partake in the same activities as everyone else. You may even face persecution for your faith. Remember, you are not of this world. One of my favorite quotes, "I rather be an outcast now than get cast out later!" The narrow way isn't popular, but it's worth it. Nothing can compare to the joy and peace that comes from a life that is obedient and fully surrender to Christ. Take it from someone who rebelled against God and partied their life away in college. (Read my  My testimony) Don't believe the lies sis. Life in the world looks glamorous, but it's all a visage. The partying, drugs, sex, and relationships cannot fill that void that you have. We desperately need Christ!

2. Surround yourself with Godly friends

1 Corinthians 15:33 Do not be deceived,"Bad company corrupts good morals."

Women of God should be loving, friendly, welcoming and cordial to everyone. However, we must be very selective of our close friends. It's so imperative that we surround ourselves with sisters who love and fear the Lord. We can't afford to have friends who are encouraging us to sin against God and do things that are contrary to His word. Imagine you trying to live for Christ but you have friends who are full of drama and constantly pressuring you to hook up with guys and attend parties. We need Godly friends who we can confess our sins to, be accountable to, sharpen us, correct us when we're wrong, pray with us when we're struggling, tell us the truth in love and who will ultimately push us closer to Christ!

3.Don't compromise

2 Timothy 2:22 Flee the evil desires of youth and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, along with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart.

Sis, don't compromise your Godly standards to fit in. Don't dim your light to get the approval of people. Don't compromise and date a guy who doesn't love Christ. I know the struggle is real, it seems like everyone has a bae but you..but sis, you can't change him! This guy will lead you away from Christ and you'll end up heartbroken. Flee sin and cling to Christ. Protect your purity. Guard your heart. Don't flirt with sin or think you can handle it. We can only do this by the power of the Holy Spirit, not human effort. So many times we think we are stronger that what we are. Trust me we are not. We can't handle it. No matter how long you've been saved. No matter how long you've been celibate. No matter how many scriptures you know. You can't handle it! The flesh is weak. Don't put yourself in compromising situations where you can fall in sin.  Proverbs 6:27 Can a man take fire in his bosom And his clothes not be burned?

We must be wise ladies. I understand that we're not perfect but remember that we represent Christ. Some things may not necessarily be a sin, but is it wise? Don't lose your witness and don't allow your good to be evil spoken of. The streets are watching. Your peers won't take you serious if one minute your'e trying to witness to them about Christ, then the next minute your'e doing the same things that they're doing. Be wise!

Romans 14:16 So do not let what you regard as good be spoken of as evil.

1 Corinthians 10;23 All things are lawful,” but not all things are helpful. “All things are lawful,” but not all things build up.

4. Stay grounded in the word

Psalm 119:11 I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you.

Being in our word as believers isn't an option. We cannot be self-sufficient and think we can coexist apart from Christ. We must cling to Him tightly and feast upon His word. We must set aside a time to study the word and pray. The word strengthens us, comforts us, transforms us, convicts us and gives us the power to overcome sin. Let's be honest, no one is going to "feel" like reading their word all the time. We have to be real and ask God to give us the desire. We must deny our flesh and not allow for our feelings to control us.

5. Use your time wisely

Sis, use your time wisely because we can never get time back. Don't look back on your college years and realize that you wasted time. Be fruitful and leverage your time. Your college campus is a mission field. There are so many people from all walks of life who don't know Christ. Pray for opportunities to share the gospel and make disciples. Join a campus ministry or even start one! (If you're interested in starting a High heels and High standards campus ministry email me!:-) Serve your community, volunteer, mentor, join clubs, or do an internship. Most importantly, find a solid bible teaching church where you can be edified and grow. It is also great to have an older sister at church who can mentor you and pour into you!

6. Have fun!

Ecclesiastes 8:15 So I commend the enjoyment of life, because there is nothing better for a person under the sun than to eat and drink and be glad. Then joy will accompany them in their toil all the days of the life God has given them under the sun.

Sis make the most of your time in college!  Just because your'e a Christian doesn't mean you have to be stiff and boring. Connect with other young Christians in your area. Evangelize. Make disciples. Travel. Live. Think outside the box. Understand that in your walk with Christ there will be victories and there will be failings. Sometimes you'll be on the mountain tops and other times you'll be in the valley. No matter what season you find yourself in, keep your eyes on Christ because He is faithful. If you fall or make unwise decisions learn from them. Don't sink in condemnation and run back to the world. Repent and run back to the arms of your loving Father! 

I hope that this blog can encourage my sisters who are in high school or college. Please share with other ladies that you know. Though it may be hard, it's not impossible to live for Christ in college. Sis, if you have gotten out of the race it's time to get back in. Remember your purpose while at college. Remember you are there to glorify God, to be a light and get an education. Don't lose focus. Love you sis stay encouraged!

What is a Christian?

What is a Christian?

There's an attack on what it means biblically to be a Christian. All over our country we have people professing to be Christian but their life, what they teach, and what they stand for grossly contradicts scripture. A false Christianity is so prevalent in our country because it costs nothing and allows people to live how they want and "go to Heaven!" The standard has been lowered and tainted of what a Christian is. Just because someone has a title, is apart of a denomination, a faithful church goer, or talks about Jesus doesn't make them a Christian. It's so imperative that we're letting the bible define what a Christian is..not opinions, feelings, or our culture. I'm so passionate about this topic because I was in church all of my life thinking I was a Christian but was lost as ever. My heart is to see people truly saved and on fire for God because at the end of our lives this is the ONLY thing that will matter!!

1. A Christian has been born again

John 3:3 Jesus answered him, “Truly, truly, I say to you, unless one is born again he cannot see the kingdom of God.”

John :12-13 But as many as received Him, to them He gave the right to become children of God, even to those who believe in His name, who were born, not of blood nor of the will of the flesh nor of the will of man, but of God.

Going to church, paying tithes, getting baptized, repeating a prayer doesn't make us a Christian. Jesus said that we MUST be born again. We were born in sin and separated from God. In order to be reconciled to God we must be born again. To be born again is a spiritual rebirth from Heaven. In our natural state before Christ, we are dead spiritually and hostile to the things of God.( Ephesians 2:1, Colossians 2:13) When a person repents of their sins and place their trust in Christ, God regenerates them and makes them alive spiritually. Salvation is all a work of God, not human effort.  (John 3:8 The wind blows where it wishes, and you hear its sound, but you do not know where it comes from or where it goes. So it is with everyone who is born of the Spirit.) Salvation is a supernatural work of God where God gives a person His nature, new desires, affections, loves, and passions. This  covenant was prophesied in the old testaments.{ Ezekiel 36:26–27) Without the evidence of being born again, no person should have any assurance that they are saved or in right standing with God!

2. A Christian is saved by grace

Ephesians 2:8 For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast.

It's absolutely nothing that we can do to make ourselves right with God. Good deeds and changing our behavior doesn't make us right with God. Salvation is all of grace. We are saved by grace through faith in Christ alone. Glory to God!

3. A Christian believe God's word

2 Timothy 3:16 All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness.

Christianity isn't a buffet where we  pick and choose what we want to believe. God defines the terms and conditions as stated in His word, not us! When we are born again, we are given the mind of Christ. Our worldview must be shaped by God's word and not by our culture, opinions, or feelings. A Christian believes God's word and seeks to conform their life to it. I'm flabbergasted to hear self-proclaimed leaders in the church denounce orthodox beliefs and now take on liberal views. There's no way that anyone can be a child of God, yet support practices and lifestyles that God's word deem as sin. God's word defines what's right and wrong, not our culture. We are to change our lives to accommodate God's word, not change God's word to accommodate our lives!

4. A Christian's life will be radically transformed by the power of God

2 Corinthians 5:17 Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.

It is the Holy Spirit at work in a believer that changes them and conforms them to the image of Christ. Through the power of the Holy Spirit, we are able to obey God and live holy. The more we renew our mind in God's word, we are transformed. God's whole purpose of salvation is to change us to look like Christ and to get the glory out of our life. Through trials and circumstances God will prune and change us. Sanctification is a life-long process but the moment a person is born again, they are made alive spiritually and given the very nature of God. To say that a person can be a Christian and never grow, change, and live in a continual state of rebellion against God contradicts everything Christ stood for. Every person who encountered Christ in the bible, their life was radically transformed!

5. A Christian obeys God

John 15:14 You are my friends if you do what I command you.

1 John 2:4 Whoever says “I know him” but does not keep his commandments is a liar, and the truth is not in him.

Christianity isn't following a list of rules or trying to be a good person. When a person has been born of God they are given new desires. They no longer will be comfortable or find pleasure in sin like they did when they were lost. A Christian now loves God,seeks to please Him, and it's not burdensome to obey Him(1 john 5:3) Does this mean that a Christian will be perfect. Absolutely not! (1 John 1:8 If we say we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.) A Christian will not be perfect..but their direction will be different. Their heart and affections will be set on living for God and no longer pursuing a life of sin. If a Christian fails or sin, they will not twist scriptures to justify it, boast in it, or make excuses to continue in sin..they will be broken, grieved and led to repentance.

6.A Christian will be hated by the world

John 15:18-19 If the world hates you, know that it has hated me before it hated you. If you were of the world, the world would love you as its own; but because you are not of the world, but I chose you out of the world, therefore the world hates you.

If you're going to be a faithful Christian in a fallen world, you must accept that the world will hate you and you must love those who do. We can't expect the same world that hated and killed our Savior to love and accept us. The world will call you judgmental, harsh, self-righteous, and a bigot for standing on God's word. The world hates Christians because darkness hates the light(John 3:19-21), they hate God's truth(Galatians 4:16), because we expose sin(john 7:7), because satan has blinded the world(2 Corinthians 4:4), and they hate the gospel(1 Corinthians 1:18) The kingdom of God and the world are opposed to each other. We can't try to please both God and the world, you will love one and hate the other. We're called to love the world and engage them with the gospel, but God has called us to separate from the world. (2 Corinthians 6:17) To be a friend of the world is to be an enemy of God. (James 4:4)

7. A Christian will bear the fruit of Christ

Matthew 7:17-20 So, every healthy tree bears good fruit, but the diseased tree bears bad fruit. A healthy tree cannot bear bad fruit, nor can a diseased tree bear good fruit.  Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. Thus you will recognize them by their fruits.

Salvation is a free gift given. We are saved by grace through faith..but our fruit show if our faith is genuine. You will know a person by what flows our of their life. If a person belongs to God, it will reflect in their life.

8. A Christian perseveres to the end

Matthew 24:13 But the one who endures to the end will be saved.

Salvation isn't verified by a past act, but our present fruitfulness. I meet many people who say they "use to be a Christian" or use to be on fire for a season but are now back in the world. I would encourage that person to examine themselves to see if they where truly born again (2 Corinthians 13:5). A person who is running a race doesn't finish until he completes the race. The Christian life is a race and those who endure to the end will be saved. Throughout the Christian life, there will be trials, hardships, and suffering but we overcome by our faith in Christ.  Peter 1:8-9 Though you have not seen him, you love him. Though you do not now see him, you believe in him and rejoice with joy that is inexpressible and filled with glory, receiving the end of your faith, even the salvation of your souls.

Christianity,Empire & Scandal

                     Christianity, Empire & Scandal

This week, a co-worker asked me did I see the new episode of Empire. Before I could answer, someone said, "She's not into stuff like that!" I want to make it clear that I'm not better than anyone because I don't watch these shows. When God first saved me, I battled giving up my favorite reality shows: Single Ladies, Real Housewives of Atlanta, and Bad Girls Club. I tried to make excuses and convince myself that it was just a show and no big deal. The Holy Spirit would convict me every time, and I would feel no peace afterwards. The Holy Spirit was grieved with me feeding my flesh and filling my mind with the filth of this world.  Finally I said enough Lord, I give it to you.  (Ephesians 4:30 And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption.)

In the last year, I've heard much talk of popular shows like Empire and Scandal. For those who are not familiar with Empire or Scandal, these shows are very popular. People even get together to have Empire and Scandal watching parties. These shows glorify and promote fornication, homosexuality, abortion, adultery, greed, lust of the flesh, the pride of life..and everything that Jesus warns us to stay away from. The fastest way to promote sin and make it acceptable is through entertainment. I'm sure shows like Empire and Scandal may have a good story line, but I find it hypocritical as a believer to preach against sin but then watch shows that glorify it. These shows are designed to desensitize us to sin and make it normal. In the 70s-80s we had shows like The Cosby Show, Family Matters, Brady Bunch that promoted family, marriage, morals and values..now we have shows that promote sin and our culture reflects it!

 PAUSE.. Some of you may be thinking, "Umm Brittany I like your other posts but I'm not giving up my shows. You're being legalistic and holier than thou!" It's not about being a legalist, but we can't use our freedom in Christ as an excuse to gratify our flesh. We have to wonder why our hearts are far from God, why we have no desire to pray & share the gospel, and no passion for Christ because we are being entertained by the very things He hates and died for.  No matter how long we've been saved, we can't "handle" certain things. We should pursue holiness and godliness at all costs. 

This isn't just about Empire & Scandal. It's about what we watch, listen to, and entertain in general. These shows promote the very sins that put our loving savior on the cross.  Many times we don't understand and think God doesn't wants us to have fun or watch anything. No, God loves us and wants us to stay away from evil and anything that will take our heart away from Him. He knows how detrimental these things are to our spiritual life. Believers, we have to guard our heart and be wise. We should seek to honor God in what we listen to and watch. In my own walk, I notice when I listen to or watch certain things..afterwards I have no desire to read my word or pray. This stuff feeds our flesh, unknowingly. We shouldn't ask is this a sin, or that a sin. We should ask is this pushing us closer to God and would God be pleased with it. ( 1 Corinthians 10:23 All things are lawful, but not all things are profitable. All things are lawful, but not all things edify.)


This post wasn't to condemn any believers for watching these shows, but to bring awareness and expose the cunning tactics of the enemy. (Ephesians 5:11 Take no part in the unfruitful works of darkness, but instead expose them.) As we grow in God, we begin to love what He loves and hate what He hates..including our own sin. Some may think I'm being "too deep" but for those who have been convicted by watching these shows this is for you!:-)

Proverbs 4:23 Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.

         Psalms 101:3 I will set nothing wicked before my eyes;
I hate the work of those who fall away;it shall not cling to me.